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My ADD H seems to not be able to set a goal or make a plan or think of the future or past...just now....just the happy now.  At retirement, H sits and smokes and entertains himself.  This morning, I suggested a challenge/plan to him for him.  A small area of his hoarded masses to look at and organize and clean.

It was only until a few days after we broke up where I realized ADHD is a lot more complex than I thought, and how it played out in my relationship. We had a really bad argument and it ended with me coming to the realization that I had blamed her for most of all our ADHD related arguments.

I have never been more devastated in my entire life. I do not know what to do and really would like to talk to somebody who can help.

Does anyone have an ADHD spouse who, at the end of the day when all meds have worn off, will do extremely irritating and disrespectful things to you just for the negative reaction? He is well aware of the Demons, but seems unable to control them. It seems to be all saved up for me - especially when he's had a bad/stressful day at work (which is most days - perhaps because he seeks out/thrives on drama). I know he loves me a lot and doesn't mean to treat me badly, but cannot stop himself. I'd love tips for curbing this behavior.

My ADHD husband is very bored / annoyed / irritated to listen to me when I talk about ordinary house stuff ( not interesting for him, because it's boring , not what his current interest is on) , when tried ( dropped that  by now) to engage him in helping me with house things I absolutely cannot fix myself he'd get defensive, justifying lack of action in the past and often blame me for himself not getting done what he was supposed to. You would think I aggressively approached him with criticism. NO.

In Melissa's articles I read that spouse being diagnosed with ADHD is going to provide insight and path to improving relationships. Basically, it is supposed to give HOPE. 

It's been just over a year since everything came to a head with my ADHD-husband, and we started actively working on our many issues. I'm happy to report that significant progress has been made in that time. We still have a long way to go, but both my husband's words and actions are making me feel hopeful for the first time in a long time. The basics of our story... we have been married over a decade and have a child we both adore. My husband has trouble managing alcohol, and it's had negative consequences for us over the years.

I'm new to this forum - my partner and I were never married. We both have liked each other for 5 years and finally started dating seriously about 6 months ago. I have anxiety and my partner has ADHD. The first 5 months he was hyper focused on the relationship - he quickly told me he loved me and always made time for me. Then about a month ago there was a sudden shift - we barely saw each other and it seemed like he had time for everything else but me.

By way of introduction, my SO and I have been married over 20 years.  I'm the non-ADD partner, and it wasn't until one of our children was diagnosed that we started to realise SO might have ADD as well (about 10 years ago).

Hey everyone, first time posting in here. I am halfway through reading the adhd effect book and I am so happy to know there are solutions. My husband has Adhd and I don't we have been married for 2.5 years and together for 8. I fell in love with him because of his adhd really, he's so passionate and fearless and great storyteller he's so extreme in everything he does and I've always loved it. We knew his adhd was becoming more of a serious problem when his driving became dangerous. He was very distracted and we had many close calls, then his road rage became out of control.

Non Wife of an ADHD husband. HSP. Me.