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It has been 3 years since finding this site. It has helped me so much...I need to "talk" recent events out here now.Been married for 45 years. (Me 65 H  67)Took marriage course alone. Tried to get ADHD  H  to participate with saved sessions. H sluffed thru 2 of them but claims he did all. I have worked on me really hard.  got Bipolar 2 dx, lost 80 lbs, exercise, hobbies, quit the nagging, got it together. Things were great for a while despite H refusal to accept ADHD & even basic treatments. Says he is stubborn, doesn't want to and its too hard.. Recently we both regressed.

Hi there. So, a little background. My husband is 32 and I'm 34 and we have three beautiful little boys together, ages 5 and a half and under. We have been married for almost 7 years (this December). I believe he has ADHD, as he was diagnosed and medicated (Ritalin) as a child and still displays many of the symptoms to this day (he's not on meds now and hasn't been for years). His bio father also has ADHD. He is adopted and has wonderful adoptive parents. 

Wondering if all ADDers love the sound of their own voice. My DH talks a lot. He never met a person who wasn't his great and wonderful friend. Very social and inappropriately friendly. But when it comes to things that do need to be talked about or communicated he refuses. He seems to be limited to weather talk and gossip. Or chattering about himself. Is this an add thing?

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My question is do you think people can change.

I made the mistake of going on to another site and making some comments on a subject. I turned my email notifications off for this site so that if people responded to my post I wouldn't be getting notified anymore.

I made a mistake this morning of going back onto this site just to read what other people are posting. I noticed that someone had responded to one of my comments. They blasted me it was horribly critical, and now I'm crying and upset. Not the way I want to start my day.

I have started reading Melissa's book and had built up so much hope just because she is totally describing my relationship.  It has made me feel like I am not crazy for wanting to stay in it - we are engaged, and I said yes because I *want* to marry him, I *want* to build a life together, but I still have doubts.

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H is 67 years old and has untreated ADHD.  He has had a successful career and has recently retired.  

In my opinion, he does not sleep well; there is a TV in his room, so when he awakens, the TV immediately is turned on, no matter the time.

H is very agitated in the morning and becomes angry over insignificant things and basically goes on a screaming, profane rampage.  BTW! This is NOT new behavior.

Would appreciate others' input.

My husband was diagnosed about a year ago and is on medication #3 (Adderall) with some success. However, without behavioral therapy he's had the medication amount upped a few times and then it seems to wear off. He's struggled to find solid, reliable talk therapy and was feeling very frustrated until recently. My own therapist has extensive experience in adult ADD specifically with a trauma base, and she agreed yesterday during our session to let me bring him to my next one with her in a week.

My H has a focus on garbage.  He gets enraged every Saturday at me because he feels like I don't process the "throw aways" correctly.  He literally sits on the floor of the kitchen with the 2 garbage bags and sorts, rips labels off glass containers, shreds, and categorizies every fine piece for over 30 minutes.  He is always FUMING at me while he does this because I don't do this.  

I have a choice.  I can do it his way (which to me seems out of proportion of time spent for trash) or..