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Both my wife and I have adhd and have been struggling in our marriage with the difficulties that we each create for years. These problems keep escalating each time we have had a new child, especially when she got post partum depression with our last one. We have been going to counseling but we won't be able to go back for 3 weeks due to scheduling conflicts. Found the book that lead me to this forum a few days ago and figured I would seek some help here too.

Okay, so many weird things I really don't know what to make of these.  Even more bizarre than usual.  If you read my stuff here you know that my DH will be 50 in November and is unmedicated for his ADHD.  He is without a doubt the most inefficient person I have ever met and takes great pride in doing things in the most complicated, convoluted way possible.  These are examples from the past three weeks: all his junk mail is stuffed in one of his dresser drawers.  JUNK mail-like fliers and stuff addressed to OCCUPANT.  Stuffed in a dresser drawer.

Does anyone else recognise these conversations? (or similar)

HUBBY:- Lets take the grandkids out tomorrow for the day, To my favourite seaside beach,

Hello,

I am seeking guidance on a situation that I feel many of you are familiar with. I am a 41 year old woman diagnosed with ADHD married to a non-ADHD husband. I have had ADHD all my life but just (re)started meds (Elvanse) a about a month ago. I am still adjusting.

So, I've already extracted myself from this and am starting to date someone else, but I'm pretty sure I was briefly involved with another ADHD man recently.     I am writing about the experience here not to complain or to do any harm but rather, just to share, in case anyone out there reading has just started dating someone new and things seem... interesting.  At one point he disclosed to me that other family members have been diagnosed with ADHD and when I asked if he had ever been diagnosed he said no.  In my opinion, he might want to reconsider that.  Heh.
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So I actually watched DH form a lie today while I stood there.  Now understand that this man lies like he breathes, so it's nothing new, just that I usually don't witness it actually happening.  It was kind of like an eclipse or a shooting star or something.

After being unemployed for way too long, and then screwing around with the hiring process for 3 weeks, DH is finally working.  

But, like always, now that he isn't around all the time, I'm getting bombarded with the stuff he didn't do.

My DH seems to thinks that now matter how is treats me he is entitled to sex whenever he likes. I am not only depressed over this but frightened. It has been some time since we had sex and he has become very adamant and demanding about it. I understand his frustrations about it but what about me. Nothing changes as far as his behaviours even if he gets what he wants....

Spouse of ADHD partner, looking for community in navigating this. Help!

Husband formally diagnosed 3 years ago, medicated, but no therapy/counseling, sadly I may likely know way more about ADHD and its effects at this point, as I've read a ton, and actually been going to a counselor who specializes in ADHD to help me understand what I'm dealing with, and validate that its not just me losing my mind!

A neurologist recently told my wife that our 9-year-old daughter may be on the autism spectrum.  He wants to get an MRI done.

This weekend, I went with her on an annual father/daughter camping trip we have done for the last three years.  On Saturday night, she refused to put her shoes on despite the fact that it was raining and muddy.  The shoes she wore earlier had gotten wet on a raft trip--as if walking barefoot in cold mud has so much better.  She also had dry, almost new shoes that we bought on vacation a few weeks ago. No, they had sand in them and were not cleaned enough.