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Hi and so pleased to have found this space.  I have never reached out like this before but I am feeling so broken.  A long story short - I've been living with my bf of 3 years who has recently been diagnosed as having ADHD, like just last week.  

He has moved to his sisters and finally gone to the doctors.  We both have to move out of the home I have had for 10 years because finances have gotten so out of control, rent couldn't be paid and its all in my name and now I am being evicted.

Husband is in denial of his ADHD symptoms despite the fact that we have a son with it and did therapeutic foster care for multiple kids with it. He just refuses to equate any of his problems with keeping a job to ADHD. Over 25 years he's had 28 jobs, the longest lasted 4 years. Every time he gets fired he claims he has no idea why or makes excuses for why he couldn't possibly have performed any better. Usually he claims they never trained him properly or the equipment was faulty or the conditions weren't "ideal" (too hot, too cold, no breaks, no instructions, etc) 

My DH hits the floor running about 5:30 every morning. He doesn't stop doing his thing until about 11at night. I am not on his radar much at all. He doesn' t have time for the simplest things such as having meals together or just sitting and talking. He often complains that all I do is say no to him. That is probably true. I am weary of his constant running, constant screaming fits. I guess when he asks things from me my automatic thought pattern is when is my turn to be able to request things. He takes simple requests as insults or something.

Sending out best wishes to the mothers and fathers who struggle today and other days with the challenges presented to relationships and parenting by ADHD and related disorders.  You are heroes.

Hi guys!

What is it called when trite, seemingly small,but harmful/hurtful things happen over and over until they become normal?  I''m sure there is a word for that.  I am trying to make myself aware of why I am so angry and resentful when I don't have the words to explain...some things seem so trivial but added up over decades they have eroded my well-being.  

Like this that just happened:  

Hello, I am the Non- ADHD spouse of an adult diagnosed ADHD husband.  He is now taking meds which is helping but I can't shake the anger and frustration that has built up previously to treatment.  We have recently set up some boundries and he is doing well following them.  Our issues were many, drinking, video games, addictive tendencies to everything- caffiene, nicotine, thankfully no hard drugs though, and crazy sleep schedules.  He quit drinking 6 months ago and that has helped immensly.  The newest most raw issue is that lack of time together.  I work full time and go to school, he is i

We've been to loads of counselling and it does help but I'd rather avoid that right - mainly because the issue relates to sex and I really don't want to talk about that with another person in the room, we barely manage it with just us. I'm the (female) ADHD partner, freshly diagnosed & a bit relieved.

My husband stopped initiating sex aeons ago because I rejected him too often - not that I was aware of - and leaves it up to me. My perception is that if he initiated I was able to respond and enjoy it.

Ok, I am reaching out to get some feedback on a problem in our marriage which is huge and getting bigger by the day.  One for which I see no solution.  MY DH and I have been successfully working on a lot of issues, but this one seems hopeless to me and I sometimes feel like I should just move out if we can't fix it.  So, as I'm sure most of you know, people with ADHD often have a myriad of sensory issues as well, much like someone on the autism spectrum.  My ADHD daughter was sensitive to touch and texture and getting her dressed in the morning when she was young was Hell.  My husband, on t

I truly feel as if I am going crazy. So much half communications and then fits of temper if I ask him about things later. He will give me snippets of information but rarely the whole story. When I ask more questions he always says he told me all the info. Well he doesn't. Why can' he ever admit that he didn' tell me that. Tons of examples too many to mention....sorry if this sounds vague. It is almost like he does it on purpose.