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January 2017 I broke up with my boyfriend of 4+ years, this was hard and complicated. But in March I started to put myself back out there, always believe what Robyn lyric said, “the only way a heart can mend is when you learn to love again” (I changed it slightly). Rather quickly I met a guy online and we hit it off electronically, we had a lot in common and good communication back and forth. We finally decided to meet in person and that went well. He was super engaged, always texting, calling, hanging out. He would plan fun activities and as time progressed I really started to like him.

My marriage is over and still mid-divorce (very nasty and over a year later).  Admittedly, I’ve self-diagnosed my ex as ADHD based on research after we separated. I recently found this website and see many identical themes and similarities in my defunct marriage.  I only wish I had known these facts before the “D” as perhaps we could have resolved some major issues in the relationship:  distrust built from habitual lies, anger and resentment mounted from the overburden of responsibilities and always feeling like a “caged animal”.

Today is the two-year anniversary of my divorce.  Thank you to everyone who posts here for your insight and support during my marriage and since its end.

So lets see. Where do I begin? At the beginning I suppose. I met my wife ten years ago. Things were great at first. We had an amazing sex life. She was beautiful and had a good heart. As things went along though, it started to get very ugly very fast. She procrastinated about everything and she was extremely dirty. I told her how i felt about these things and she showed no interest in changing anything. So i did what came natural and I broke up with her and found someone else.

Hi there,

im new round here but as per my subject, my partner is newly diagnosed and I’m worried about how obsessive he has become about his condition.

He was diagnosed in February and is on a mixture of Concerta 36mg and 10mg Ritalin which he uses to top up through the day by 1mg amounts. 

Im supportive in his research and his treatment but he has become so obsessed with his condition and different ways to treat it that I believe he has crossed from a healthy interest in to some sort of hyper-focus or obsession. 

This is probably not ADD but it does have something to do with how to respond rather than react to (or stuff) our own feelings of being upset with someone or with a situation that bothers us.

Is this my husband or is it ADHD?  My husband has a way of twisting situations in his head so things are perfect.  Sometimes I wonder if he's being manipulative, but I really think he's just delusional.

For example, at our kid's school, once a month parents come in before school starts and get to see what the kids are working on.  Like an open house. 

Well, we forgot again today.  I was moaning a little that we screwed up and he said "at least we made it to every other one this year."  We only made it to one. 

Looking back on my life, I realize that I have been loving in my words and actions.  What I was not, however, maybe was that I was not beloved. I don't recall being loved and precious.  I recall believing that I needed to work for acceptance and for my keep.  

 I am wondering if this is an ADD trait. I am constantly being asked to do things for DH that I feel a 56 year old man should be able to do for himself. He came to me last night with pill bottles in his hands. Couldn't figure out how much Advil to take. If I had told him to read the label he would have a screaming fit at me. I know we shouldn' be in a parent child dynamic  but what to do if the ADD spouse seems to want it this way. He cannot seem to read a map or a measuring tape either. He relys on me a lot but has the attitude that I do nothing for him.

Tired of getting the brunt of her anger at herself. My wife of 19 years has ADD and depression. I’ve been reading the blogs about the “Parent Child Relationship”and I must say that it’s happening in our life. Today, I saw that she was running out of her meds, so I called the doctor to see,if she could come in for the script. Yes, she got an appointment for 3:00. Wife was outside pulling weeds and I told her we need to hurry so as to get there on time. Taking her time, she finally came inside to ge ready. 2:30i reminded her we had to leave to get there in time.