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Here is a new perspective.  I have been trying so hard to "make things OK" that I have lost my self.  Believing that to get along meant that I must compromise and not fight and not nag and try to soothe H's (and other people's) anger/discomfort and to help his overwhelm.

Well, that has not worked.  AND I lost my self, my joy, my strength, my identity. I read this today and it points me in another, happier, more robust future:

For most of our marriage, my husband and I have had the same issues; parent-child dynamic and me shouldering the burden of financial responsibility. His lack of keeping a decent job has plagued us. He has had over 15 jobs in our 14 years of marriage. His career has done the opposite of advance as he seems to make less money with each new job. He’s now making less than he did 15 years ago.

Last night, I heard my wife and our son fighting.  I went upstairs and asked what was happening.  My wife starts explaining about how our daughter snuck her kindle when she was not supposed to have it.  OK, but what does that have to do with why she was fighting with our son?  Oh, because she decided that it was the perfect time to pick a fight with him because our daughter must be copying his behavior!  I tried several times to explain to her that it was not a good idea to start widening the fight.  She just kept repeating that our daughter was influenced by his bad behavior and acted like

January 2017 I broke up with my boyfriend of 4+ years, this was hard and complicated. But in March I started to put myself back out there, always believe what Robyn lyric said, “the only way a heart can mend is when you learn to love again” (I changed it slightly). Rather quickly I met a guy online and we hit it off electronically, we had a lot in common and good communication back and forth. We finally decided to meet in person and that went well. He was super engaged, always texting, calling, hanging out. He would plan fun activities and as time progressed I really started to like him.

My marriage is over and still mid-divorce (very nasty and over a year later).  Admittedly, I’ve self-diagnosed my ex as ADHD based on research after we separated. I recently found this website and see many identical themes and similarities in my defunct marriage.  I only wish I had known these facts before the “D” as perhaps we could have resolved some major issues in the relationship:  distrust built from habitual lies, anger and resentment mounted from the overburden of responsibilities and always feeling like a “caged animal”.

Today is the two-year anniversary of my divorce.  Thank you to everyone who posts here for your insight and support during my marriage and since its end.

So lets see. Where do I begin? At the beginning I suppose. I met my wife ten years ago. Things were great at first. We had an amazing sex life. She was beautiful and had a good heart. As things went along though, it started to get very ugly very fast. She procrastinated about everything and she was extremely dirty. I told her how i felt about these things and she showed no interest in changing anything. So i did what came natural and I broke up with her and found someone else.

Hi there,

im new round here but as per my subject, my partner is newly diagnosed and I’m worried about how obsessive he has become about his condition.

He was diagnosed in February and is on a mixture of Concerta 36mg and 10mg Ritalin which he uses to top up through the day by 1mg amounts. 

Im supportive in his research and his treatment but he has become so obsessed with his condition and different ways to treat it that I believe he has crossed from a healthy interest in to some sort of hyper-focus or obsession. 

This is probably not ADD but it does have something to do with how to respond rather than react to (or stuff) our own feelings of being upset with someone or with a situation that bothers us.

Is this my husband or is it ADHD?  My husband has a way of twisting situations in his head so things are perfect.  Sometimes I wonder if he's being manipulative, but I really think he's just delusional.

For example, at our kid's school, once a month parents come in before school starts and get to see what the kids are working on.  Like an open house. 

Well, we forgot again today.  I was moaning a little that we screwed up and he said "at least we made it to every other one this year."  We only made it to one.