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I've been with my OH for 2 years and living together for 6 months.  We had a rough first year and broke up a couple of times but this time, it's "for real" and he's 100% in.  He had always made a joke of being ADD and OCD but when a co-worker came to me and shared a book about ADHD and said she thought that my OH might have it, I really started taking it seriously.  I started reading (still reading) The ADHD Effect on Marriage so I can learn more about it and how it affects or could affect our relationship BEFORE it goes sour.  We have identified that he probably IS ADHD albeit undiagnosed

Wanting to ask a question here, just out of curiosity.......about being "in love".

Hi All

Cecilia from Piled Higher and Deeper:

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I could write a novel on how one sided our relationship is, but for the sake of your sanity, I want to focus on one aspect.

My wife has kept notes on everything I have done 'wrong'. If I forget to take out the trash on a busy week, I am ADD even though it happens like once a year. She forgets things more often than remembering them. 

Almost every child in our family has ADHD. My stress level with the fighting amongst them is so high. One of the children who doesn’t seem to have ADHD is copying the behavior she sees them exhibit. 

Someone PLEASE give me some ideas. I’ve tried so many things already, and every article I can find online only addresses if one child has ADHD.  

For those of you that have lived through something similar, what do you wish you had done when you were dealing with work, kids, and an ADHD spouse?

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 40 when after the birth of our third child, our marriage started to really struggle. We have three young kids ages 4, 2, and 1. That would make anyone insane, but with my husband’s ADHD, I’m at my breaking point.

Hi all,

I am new to this forum. I just want to get a sense from other people who have ADHD what their experience in serious relationships has been. I have had struggles understanding my emotions towards my first serious girlfriend (are the emotions big enough, am I excited enough?), and I am not sure how ADHD influences my struggles. 

So I ask you. In you most committed relationship(s):

1. Did you have an initial period of infatuation towards your partner?

Hi everyone--new to this forum! My ADD husband and I have been together 5 years, married for 3, and a few months ago after a fight I realized from reading something online that my husband likely had ADD. Fast forward a few weeks to an evaluation and he scored 97% on the inattentiveness scale. He's trying meds and therapy, and yet it feels like things have gotten so much worse for us.

Guess I'll just lay it out.  I told Shrink hubby had ADD in 1995 or sooner --he gave meds but never ever suggested any treatment - went to counselling which was a disaster because hubby looked like a the victim of a wife who just couldn't be happy with him.   Meanwhile he was writing the great American Novel.

Fast forward - because we are running out of retirement $ which have been spent on his projects -- am insisting we go through this training.

He says:

You changed about 2 years ago

You're just unhappy with yourself