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So, a few weeks ago, after yet another angry outburst that I’ve said time and time again is not acceptable in our home, I said I thought we should separate.  I don’t want to.  I said it out of desperation.  And because he was yelling at me, provoking me.  Because we’ve had the SAME CONVERSATION 500 times about how his expression of anger has eroded our relationship.  He gets mad.  I say that was not ok.  He gets defensive.  I clam up for days.  Things blow over.  But they really don’t.  Not for me.  This pattern happens over and over and over.

We are working on our relationship and my ADHD treatment. I realize that this may be more complicated than just one or the other. This has been an issue for us, for a long time. I have been taking Adderall and Vivanse for treatment. I am trying to be aware and speak to my mate in a kind and respectful way but sometimes it just comes out. Would a different medication help be a better fit?

Thanks

Steve

Hi all,

the information is so good here I wanted to post a question and would really like to hear your point of view.

my gf has undiagnosed ADHD, I only became aware when a good common friend of us who has diagnosed ADHD told me that in his view my gf (or my ex) had ADHD herself as she shows a lot of the signs, he told me this AFTER I ended the relationship, after I got educated on ADHD it all made sense, so I agree with him, i strongly believe she was ADHD just she is so unaware of it.

Have you ever wondered, is there something I can say or do, to make my spouse understand what living with them is like? After years of failed communication attempts, have you ever wondered, how on earth do I get through to this person?  I sure have! When someone gets offended (starts off defensive) before you can ask your first question about their behavior. It's not a good sign that any progress will ever be made...

I have never been one to value power, prefering to value love and sacrifice more.  But I am learning that was my undoing.  I have been making it my project to understand power and how a person needs to be aware of it. The following is an article from Psychology Today that helps me to see where I have been part of the problem of my own resentment and sadness.  I think this is important to be aware of.  So some of us may stop crying and start to work on our self esteem and .....oooh, I had always hated this word....POWER. It seems selfish to me.

Hi all, I've recently joined as some of the posts I've read seemed to be really helpful. 

Im currently partner to someone who was diagnosed  ADHD from a very young age. When we had first met I was aware of his ADHD, but it didn't seem a problem, it was exciting fun and we got on so well! As time has gone on it seems to be alot more of a struggle for us/me. I have ADHD in my family too so it didn't bother me much, however I've realised as time has gone on and the more emotionally involved you get it's much more of a struggle. 

weve been together for 16 years and we've had the rollercoaster ride many have. He's been diagnosed and medicated but little else has changed. We have 2 lovely children . Over the years I've been back and forth with understanding, tolerance, fear, anger, frustration. I've been supportive and understanding and have read as much as I can about ADHD and tried my utmost to be the best I can for us all. 

Hi all,

my names stu. I bought the book for couples today and found out about this website. I could really do with some help from anyone who might be going through what I am going through right now.

Basically ive suspected ive had ADHD all my life, i was sort of diagnosed with it a few years ago. Im 39 now, I live in Liverpool in the UK and, sadly, my marriage has failed.

My wife of 10 years has anxiety, depression, and ADHD. We have three children, one has been diagnosed and one seems to have ADHD but has not yet been diagnosed.