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Main question: has anyone had experience with you or a spouse being evaluated for ADHD while serving in the military? 

I was just venting and not very helpful to the board this morning so I deleted it.

I'm glad to see an article on this subject.

https://www.additudemag.com/inside-the-aging-adhd-brain/

Nearly everyone, as they age, declines cognitively and/or physically.    What kind of decline it is matters to how it can be treated, or how one can adapt one's life to compensate the loss of mental or physical capacity.

Hi All,

Just wanted to ask you what you thought about the self-screening as the main (or only) diagnostic tool for ADHD. Many therapists do this - base the whole diagnosis on that piece of paper, filled by the patient. And that's it. Voila. You immediately know if you have ADHD.

My fiance and I have known each other for 20 years and been dating for 3. He has always been a quiet guy. 

He has told me that he has trouble focusing. He does alot of little projects to help with that.. model tanks, Star Wars stuff, converting VHS to DVD.  

Its always something.  He has said many times... I think I have ADD. 

Its like something is wrong and he can't see to put his finger on it.

Based on what I read up on... I think there is some truth to it.

Hi,

Today, another thing has occurred to me, another mechanism that I think weighs heavily on my life and my ADHD spouse's.

I've been thinking a lot how it's possible that she feels so dissatisfied with her/our life so often, when in fact so many good things happen in it. And I think I started to notice a pattern that might be quite revealing.

Something happened this weekend that made me realize that I've seen a pattern.  A very, very odd and unhealthy pattern.  My husband lies and hides.  All the time and about stupid stuff that shouldn't matter as well as big stuff that does matter.  I've known this for a long time.  When he went to therapy briefly, the only piece of information he gave me was that he determined that he lied all the time to everyone.

I'm non-ADHD wife married to ADHD man with 2 previous marriages, 2 children from each (all adults now).  Being older we have no children from our marriage.  We've had all the usual ADHD problems around  chaos, time, chores, anger outbursts etc, and I can mostly deal with this stuff.

Here's another thing that's been bothering me.

Living in the same space is difficult for many reasons. But being in the same room at the same time, that's the real difficulty. On a very basic level.

So, for instance, if I need to go through a door, and my ADHD angel is standing there, when I approach her, I need to say: "Please, move aside, because I need to go through this door." Otherwise, it's like she doesn't see me.

And when I say this, she reacts like she's being scolded.

Do you feel like your ADHD partner often has the urge to provoke conflicts around that time? I mean Christmas, birthdays, etc.? Because mine certainly does. I've noticed, over the years, we spend those jolly days not even knowing if we're still a couple. It seems like there's excessive need of stimulation that results in uncontrolled anger in my ADHD spouse.

I thought maybe I don't need to explain this further. If this happens you you, you'll know what I mean.

Please, share your thoughts.