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Some Insight For Anyone to Use.......

Last night, my wife and I were discussing her exist plan after going over to the home of a friend she is moving in with.  As we are able to speak more openly now, I am really listening to the things she is saying which just fits to what I know but now in a new potential situation?  When I asked about her new place, she was very focused on the dogs at her new abode.  She hasn't even moved in yet, and she already focused and worried about the dogs there.

How to deal with the guilt of leaving

Once again I've caught my husband lying.  His addictive behavior and lies have destroyed our marriage.  I'm tired of the same song and dance.  He is only remorseful when he is caught.  I can't continue to live in fear of what my husband is doing and know I can't trust him.  I am seriously considering moving out.  My husband works long hours and if I move out, he will see our son even less than he does now.  In a way I feel this could be good, because as soon as I leave, he will drown his sorrows in booze and destructive behavior.  I am feeling guilty knowing that I will be changing my son's

Marriage in jeapardy

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Hello. This is the first time I am posting in a forum, but I am desperate. My marriage is falling apart. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 10 years ago. I take vyvanse. This has helped greatly in a lot of Areas. My problem is I never did research on the effects of ADHD in marriage. My wife and I fight all the time and I never new why till I read a lot of these blogs. I am devastated it is my fault. I don't know if i can repair the damage with my wife. I realize now the hurt I caused her with all my quirks and forgetfulness and anger and such. I am at a loss.

How to broach the subject of adhd

I'm new here and really struggling. My husband and I have been together since high school and I love him very much. We have 2 kids and I genuinely want our marriage to survive. I have always thought that he was a bit different, and, over he past year I have come to realise that his symptoms match exaptly to those of ADHD. For the sake of our marriage I need to speak to him about it. He needs treatment as his untreated symptoms are causing huge problems in our marriage. I feel very down. How do I broach this subject with I'm?

Should I change my behavior? Help!!

Last Sunday my husband misunderstood me because he wasn't listening and it ended up in an all day long fight. He got so mad at me, cursing and calling me names. He does have an anger problem, always has, but these past few years the temper tantrums have been getting worse. He is currently taking meds for his adhd (just started) but goes without them a few days a week, and when he does everything catches up to him. 

Decided it's over for good.

So, my husband went off overseas with his fraternity and has been posting all over Facebook what a great time he is having, eating all kinds of wonderful food. Family friends are asking why he didn't take me and the kids and one of my friends even emailed me to say they are sorry he left us behind. My older son has been in a terrible flare for the last two days, verbally and even a bit physically abusive, very difficult to deal with. I've also had my parents in town, which was the only nice thing.

Charm of a Narciissist

This is something I did not know, but it would have been nice if I had known it when I was young. When I think of it, it is pretty obvious.  I fell for it hundreds of times without realizing it.....  My H, the traveling salesman. H's threats are always coated with sugar.   People who act "too charming" now get on my nerves because I have been conditioned to expecting ulterior motives after a "charming" episode with him.

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