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Before I forget...I wanted to recount as I see it...a successful interaction with my wife and what I have come to understand better?  The problems we run into so many times...is within my wife's ability to say what she means or even say...what she is thinking in way that makes any sense to me?  There is a bit of logic or a piece to this puzzle always missing and this is where I walk head long into trouble because I just can't see it?  There is a reason why....however, I can't see it with my wife in that...she doesn't tell me that piece that is missing and its the piece that is necessary..fo

So, I just have to point out I have Aspergers syndrome, and my fiancé has a combination of ADHD and Aspergers. We've been together for 4 years. And I apologize if this post gets EXTREMELY long, but I really feel like I need help here.

Hi all, 

I don't know which behaviors  to attribute to ADHD and which are "just the way he is". I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year,  In the spring, he lied to me about smoking pot, and apologized for not being honest with me.  I explained that lying hurt me, that I felt as if I weren't worthy of the truth. 

Fast forward to two weeks ago.  The signs were there.  I know when something is off between us.  I came over to his place, and there was an apology card/note, along with some flowers.

I found an old post by Melissa Orlov where she said:

""There is not one single diagnostic statement that suggests that anger is one of the symptoms of ADHD.  Not one.  He needs to go back to his doctor immediately and work this out.  Probably some therapy would help as part of that treatment.""

I agree.  

We often see posts from people stating that their partners have ADHD and the people provide stories that include lots of anger.

I'm quite new to trying to find answers and help...I. The ADHD spouse, and my wife is a sufferer of Bipolar I. She sees things so clearly, and has no hesitation or indecision

I, however, suffer incessantly from self doubt, paralysis during crisis, and an inability to prioritize. The difference in our personalities is stark, and infuriating, to her.

So I know I posted about the weird changes my husband made a couple of months ago, where suddenly he started following through on his promises for projects on the house and started working out on the elliptical etc.  and he started treating me better and telling me he loved me and calling me on his lunch break etc....  I think I understand some of what was going on.

I'm just so frustrated...   The last year I was able to get spouse to marriage counseling 4 times with me!!!  The other times I went myself.    After many arguments I demanded a diagnose.  I felt bad but he went.   He has Anxiety, I thought ADHD and the Dr. prescribed something to help him relax..  He's a good guy just always non-stop, hyper, in a hurry all the time, doesn't care about what I have to say, it's his way only.. He doesn't understand that marriage is about 2 people not 1....It's really difficult as I'm finding myself 'on edge' most of the time.