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i am just curious what exactly is the cause?.  is it environment or is there an anomaly (think that's the word) in the brain? 

My husband has ADD from a traumatic birth injury. It has been a big part of our marriage. He and I used to get along, but since we got married a year ago, our relationship has turned into more of a parent-child theme. I don't like it. I've lost my husband to arguments over helping with dishes and laundry, or going to events outside the house, helping with our dog, etc. If it's not something he wants to do, he sees it as an annoyance and I'm the bad guy.

Figured some stuff out.  I think this hurt/anger flashes I am experiencing is related to the fear I have felt for the entirety of my relationship with my husband.  I have not had ANY security in our relationship.  I have not had any time to just "rest" and be "safe" in my marriage.  His constant threats of leaving every single time there is some sort of crisis or any time we start really getting in sync and things are GOOD, he threatens to bail and I have to fight to keep him.  I have lived in constant fear of him just running away instead of being a grown man and talking wth me - the woman

In another topic, this sentence came up as a motto used by those who would rather focus on the "fun" in life while ignoring the responsibilities in life.   It seems to really be the theme of the last couple of generations.  That "come what may, make yourself happy" shit getting fed to us by movies and TV shows by people whose wealth and narcisism completely removes them from the reality of 99% of our lives.  I get wanting to be happy, and everyone should persue it, but that motto and phrase seems to be used by the people who use it as an excuse to trample all over others, and put themselves

Hi everyone - I have been reading blogs and forum on this site for some time and find it really helpful.  I've been married to my husband for 15 years.  7 years into the marriage he was diagnosed with ADHD while in counseling for

an affair I discovered.  It wasn't a great time in our lives.  He's been on medication since but stopped counseling about 1 year after diagnosis.  We have a 10 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago by his school.  My husband

I write this out of frustration like so many others.  I am mentally exhausted from feeling like my significant other doesn't care about my feelings, concerns, stories, hurts, you name it.  We have been in a long distance relationship for over 5 years.  Over the phone this morning, I begin to tell him about a weird dream I had. The dream stemmed from anxiety I've been having over his lack of attentiveness and availability to me.

how should I deal with this? should I ask him to stop talking when I can't listen anymore? we don't live together and I feel guilty for being glad we don't!  he blurted out something inappropriate and I told him he had no filter, he didn't respond but didn't seem to mind me saying it. 

And again - for the 3rd year in a row... nothing.  He cares about the foot ball game, he cares about movie trailers.

I guess I should be glad - it will be the last anniversary.  The last day that I hope that he will remember, the last day I will have to pretend I am ok as the day goes by - forgotten again.  Wish I could forget.  Then maybe it would not hurt so much when he does forget. 

My spouse went to his doctor's office to pick up a prescription refill script for his ADHD meds, and was instead handed a specimen cup.

Seems he now has to prove his medication is in his system before they will refill it.

What?

Yep. It's real. I cannot think of enough words to describe how this makes me feel. Let's start with incredulous.

Shared with sheer frustration,

Liz