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Figured some stuff out.  I think this hurt/anger flashes I am experiencing is related to the fear I have felt for the entirety of my relationship with my husband.  I have not had ANY security in our relationship.  I have not had any time to just "rest" and be "safe" in my marriage.  His constant threats of leaving every single time there is some sort of crisis or any time we start really getting in sync and things are GOOD, he threatens to bail and I have to fight to keep him.  I have lived in constant fear of him just running away instead of being a grown man and talking wth me - the woman

In another topic, this sentence came up as a motto used by those who would rather focus on the "fun" in life while ignoring the responsibilities in life.   It seems to really be the theme of the last couple of generations.  That "come what may, make yourself happy" shit getting fed to us by movies and TV shows by people whose wealth and narcisism completely removes them from the reality of 99% of our lives.  I get wanting to be happy, and everyone should persue it, but that motto and phrase seems to be used by the people who use it as an excuse to trample all over others, and put themselves

Hi everyone - I have been reading blogs and forum on this site for some time and find it really helpful.  I've been married to my husband for 15 years.  7 years into the marriage he was diagnosed with ADHD while in counseling for

an affair I discovered.  It wasn't a great time in our lives.  He's been on medication since but stopped counseling about 1 year after diagnosis.  We have a 10 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago by his school.  My husband

I write this out of frustration like so many others.  I am mentally exhausted from feeling like my significant other doesn't care about my feelings, concerns, stories, hurts, you name it.  We have been in a long distance relationship for over 5 years.  Over the phone this morning, I begin to tell him about a weird dream I had. The dream stemmed from anxiety I've been having over his lack of attentiveness and availability to me.

how should I deal with this? should I ask him to stop talking when I can't listen anymore? we don't live together and I feel guilty for being glad we don't!  he blurted out something inappropriate and I told him he had no filter, he didn't respond but didn't seem to mind me saying it. 

And again - for the 3rd year in a row... nothing.  He cares about the foot ball game, he cares about movie trailers.

I guess I should be glad - it will be the last anniversary.  The last day that I hope that he will remember, the last day I will have to pretend I am ok as the day goes by - forgotten again.  Wish I could forget.  Then maybe it would not hurt so much when he does forget. 

My spouse went to his doctor's office to pick up a prescription refill script for his ADHD meds, and was instead handed a specimen cup.

Seems he now has to prove his medication is in his system before they will refill it.

What?

Yep. It's real. I cannot think of enough words to describe how this makes me feel. Let's start with incredulous.

Shared with sheer frustration,

Liz  

was wondering do more men have ADHD than women and why?

This is just a quick post and more of an observation.  You can treat the question of what bothers you as a rhetorical one which is mainly why I put that out there but....if you want to say what bothers you....this would be a good place to state it.  Into the context that I'm thinking about this....I noticed (now with a new set of eyes ) that my wife and I are different even though ADHD is the common thread.  Many things bother her in a general way and when she bothered...she has anxiety.  And because she has so many things that bother her...she has a lot more anxiety than I do.  And along w

As I see my children deal with certain struggles as young adults, I question whether it was a good idea for me and my husband to attempt to minimize the effects of (and thus "normalize") things such as his extended unemployment.  I didn't think arguing was a good idea, but maybe that would have been better than allowing the issues to be buried (for the most part) but not resolved.  My daughters have issues with insecurity, perfectionism, and trusting men, and it seems to me that some of their issues might derive from, for lack of a better term, lack of a strong father figure.