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As I have just come to discover with my wife and for those who have difficulty expressing their emotions....for those who yearn for more depth and more meaningful discourse with your spouse....this might be useful to you.

Coming back to some analogies used by my T to help get a better or clearer visual image..

In character again...

I need help to try and find out how to get something to work. I have ADHD husband who wants to be around the family, help out with our child but never has time or energy to do it. I am going to take his word that he wants to do these things but its ADHD that is not allowing him to do it even though I have starting to second guess everything lately.

I have been together with my partner for four years and it has been really difficult time. I am just now trying to figure out if I should continue. During good times my partner is very sweet and caring. He has supported me throughout therapy and also regularly does me small gestures. It is also really nice to talk to him and he is definitely brilliant in his own way. The problem is, I am very demotivated to stay in our relationship. It feels to me, that it is a constant struggle. Lets start with his anger outbursts and problems accepting criticism.

Hi there! It is a long time ago that I did write you guys. I do live alone now with my three kids as my husband and me are now permanently separated. He had finaly in January agreed to get tested more thoroughly after he had a depression and acted strangely while on Ritalin. He went because I did force him by telling him that I expect him to go. Sadly he did tell the psychiatrist that everything is fine with him and did fill out the questionnaires accordingly.

I could live with alot...I can put up with alot. I can cope with a messy house, I can cope with the forgetfulness, I can actually love the sudden changes in plans.  I can forgive the forgotten chores.  All pretty easily, small stuff really.  I can give support and encouragement, and help with anything he wants and needs.

 

So my 17 year old DS was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 and he has been medicated, seen ADHD coaches, been to counseling, been to peer groups--basically, he had all the support and interventions we could provide and now heading into his senior year in high school, he is functioning amazingly well.  I want to stress how much hard work it has been to get him to that point though--phone calls and meetings and evaluations and charts and consults and appointments.  My point is to see how well he is doing now it was all worth it.

I met this amazing guy on a online dating app and we have been together for 4 months now. He's from the US and I am from the Philippines. He was very sweet to me at courtship (staying up late for me and drawing me things). I was about to graduate from university and he was to graduate from high school by the time we got together (we were both 19, me being 3 months older, but since we have a different school system here, 19 is a normal age to finish studies). I started to notice that he's becoming less attentive and affectionate to me and we had our first fight on the month of June.

This is what I've learned.  I will start...by saying, I honestly don't hold onto anger or hold "grudges" very long.  That's because I've learned to process my anger and get rid of it pretty fast.  Processing is a coping mechanism.  Everyone gets angry....and anger is always legitimate to the person.  Having a "right" to be angry is based on you...the person angry and it's always in your "right" to be angry.  Expressing your anger verbally to another person is also in your "right" to do so...but your dancing a fine line and skating on thin ice...is you can't express your anger and tell the o

I am a computer technician with a company for 13 years (been with them for 15 years).  i am intellectual and logical.  I am politically correct when i know i need to be.  i also haven't gotten along with my wife for a very long time.  instead of her realizing the issue is her, she looks online to find out how it is my issue.

She says I am ADD/ADHD (because our oldest daughter has it and it is, of course, my fault)

She says I am OCD.

She says I have aspergers.

I have to let go.  My concept of work is so different than my wife's and we approach things so differently....I need to let go.

My idea of what is work...and what is not work?

If you don't break a sweat and need a shower at the end of the day...you're not working

If it doesn't hurt or you feel no pain.....you're not working

If you aren't sore and tired at the end of the day....you're not working

If your muscles don't ache and you don't feel the burn while you're working....you're not working