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I am in the midst of a bitter divorce after 7 1/2 years of marriage.  We have two young boys, 6 and 7 years old.  My estranged wife has a "severe case" of ADD (per her psychiatrist).  She filed in August of 2015, and two weeks later had me served with a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) at my office on a Tuesday afternoon that prevented me from going home.  I haven't been home since.  There has never been any domestic violence, but verbal arguments became common in the months before she filed.

Hi - I've been incredibly stressed to the point that I have hives and my hair is falling out.

My husband has always had some really odd behaviors (as does his mom).  

I read something the other day that I found troubling.  What I read suggested that ADHD hyper-focus can make a person confuse the kind of euphoria associated with an illicit, drug-induced high with genuine feelings of love for another person at the beginning of a relationship.

The context in which I read this made me think this would be undesirable for that to happen if an ADHD person ended up with the "wrong person," as in, someone who maybe is abusive, an ex-con, or a serial cheater...situations representing real sources of relationship incompatibility.

I shall take a day to step out of the 'Wife" box and tell you about a man with ADHD and what kind of Dad he is, what he did, and what he did not do

My husband (adhd) has withheld loving, gentle, and affectionate demonstrations of emotions because he says he has a very IQ, and he isn't into "those" emotions. So, having a high IQ means you can't show someone how much you love them? That Doesn't make sense. I believe he has CHOSEN to do this.

edit change:  I took the test again...one more time as a double blind control.  It came up ENTP instead of ENFP.  I think this is a better fit all things considered.

INFP in a Nutshell (The Healer )

INFPs are imaginative idealists, guided by their own core values and beliefs. To a Healer, possibilities are paramount; the realism of the moment is only of passing concern. They see potential for a better future, and pursue truth and meaning with their own individual flair.

"Two possibilities exist. Either we are alone in the universe or we are not, both are equally terrifying."  Arthur C. Clarke

https://youtu.be/EMLPJqeW78Q Link:The Smallest to the Biggest thing in the Universe! (HD) how Big is the Universe

Where to begin?

I love my wife. 

We have been married for 12 years and I feel like most of that time I have been trying to solve problems or complete tasks for her. It is never ending. In the early years I chalked this up to a picky wife with high standards or maybe just a woman's preference thing. None of this changed the way I felt about her.  I could write a book with all of the incomplete gigantic problems/projects/tasks I have tackled in the hopes that she would be satisfied. You see, she was only diagnosed recently.

Hello, We've been married for 40 years and it's been hell relieved by me making my own happy times. I have three children with him.

On the plus side he works hard and has always supported the family and home.

On the negative side he panics in ordinary but new situations, like a self service checkout, makes rash decisions and causes chaos which he blames on the machine, same when traveling.