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My husband has been severely depressed for the last two years.  He's been taking citalopram for about a year now.  During this year, I have suggested to him numerous times, to find another med.  He is still depressed, can't sleep because the med makes him feel awake, and is down right mean sometimes.  After realizing the citalopram might be making him less empathetic towards people and situations, I talked to him about it and backed up the information with research.  I also told him that I went off citalopram in the past for the same reason- I became a jerk, I didn't care about anyone or an

I think the hardest thing for me at the moment is dealing with H not being present. We did Melissa's couples course last year and things were going great. H was having regular appointments and he was really really making an effort to create an intentional relationship. fast forward a year and yet again the downward spiral has started. It started going downhill when we went and stayed with a friend of mine for the weekend a few months ago. He forgot to take his meds and spent most of the weekend on his phone not really speaking to anyone.

My husband is having difficulty really believing ADHD is part of him. His explosive anger tempers are drainign for me and my children. My son talks to me how sad he is but clams up and is unable to approach his father. The baby stats screaming or hiding when he is angry. 

We have frustrating interactions where my husband thinks he's caught me saying something inaccurate and corrects me.  After he tells me I'm wrong, and bat whatever it is around, often he reverses himself and then tries to claim he never made the original statement. I don't think he means to hurt my feelings, he is just backtracking from his impulsive first statement, but the cover-up and rationalizations are fierce. This drives me around the bend.

Honeyblonde started a great conversation in this section entitled,  "His Tantrums are killing me...."  

Does anybody recognise this?

A single succes re-enforces the typical stubborness that ADD diagnosed seem to have?

Below examples are work related, I DO NOT WANT TO GO OFF-TOPIC FOR THIS SITE, but I have a nagging suspicion that I bring the same attitude into my relationship.

 

Once I get something right... oh see, nothing's wrong, what issues?.

 

Good afternoon all,

I just discovered this website last week while I was sick from stress, and decided today to join.  I could write a dissertation on my challenges, but I will try to sum it up succinctly.  I was so relieved to find other people dealing WITH THE EXACT SAME ISSUES as me.  I really believed that I was going crazy and was failing because I continue to be missing something in my marriage.  However, after reading some other posts, I could have it much worse.  I'm happy to fill in specific details, but here is a brief summary:

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I would like to share a few thoughts concerning communication, and the frustration and anger that arises so often when our attempts to do so or so unfruitful and even damaging. In my study of why things are like they are, why we can't move past all the volatility I realize yet again the answer is with in me. Another painful dark corner of reality I've avoided like the plaque, (my own denial) because of the simple reason it's more truth than I can handle simply because I hate it so much.