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There's a lot of back story here, but this weekend I took the kids to my friends house 8 hours away so that my husband could finish some projects left over from a disastrous professional remodel that was left unfinished 3 years and $80,000 ago. He had 4 days to paint the kitchen and some trimwork, build a railing for the back porch, and scrub and seal the kitchen floor. That was all I was expecting him to do, but we discussed a few other small things he could do.

I found this site earlier tonight via Google searches. Searches like "husband is never wrong" "husband won't accept an opposing opinion because he's never wrong" "husband insists everyone is against him",  including wife and father in law who would never interfere unless it was a last resort and  oh the search list could go on and on.

My husband had a junior-high diagnosis of ADD that he blew off at the time--hey, every restless boy had ADD in the '90s, right?

My wife and I are reading The ADHD Effect on Marriage and Sari Solden's Women with Attention Deficit Disorder. My 22 year old daughter tested positive for ADHD in high school and did a brief stint with Aderall. She's struggling now to get thru college (still hasn't finished her Sophomore year) and keep a job. Is there a better book out there than Women with ADD for my daughter who currently isn't focusing at all on her ADHD? If Sari's book is the best then we'll go with it, but I fear she may never get thru it due to the length. Thanks for any feedback!

Just need to vent, caveat, I love my spouse very much and would kill the devil for her but she has a tendency to drive me insane sometimes. I am the one with ADHD, and I understand how difficult it is to live with someone with ADHD, I am not an easy person to live with all the time and I tell her this, and thank her for all she does for me, but I forget something after n number of reminders, all hell breaks loose.

I ran across an article of this topic which is one I am still learning more about.  The one thing that I do know for sure is that this is one of those things that is hard not to notice sometimes especially with anger.  That seems to be the problematic one that everyone can see including us (ADHD'ers) when that happens.  But as I have now come to understand better....this is directly related to executive functioning and the ability to control your emotions.  As it is stated very well in this article...the emotional responses may be appropriate to the situation....but the response or how they

An amazing thing happened over dinner a couple of nights ago. J Jamieson had been talking recently about denial - and how tricky or impossible it is to get into some topics when denial is at play. He had suggested going through the back door so that the denial is not openly confronted - allowing your partner to feel safe and not attacked. I couldn't tangibly get the concept but it has stuck in my mind. So back to dinner.

Wow - this book was suggested by Melissa Orlov last week in a forum post. Wow, wow, wow! Lightbulb moment! A must read for those on this forum.

Not too very long ago, I tried to express to my spouse why I changed my behavior.  Most changes surround new boundaries put in place to keep my distance from behaviors directed at me that I will no longer accept.  

Two things came to light that really surprised me.