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I was recently broken up with by a man with ADD.

He lives in another country.

I met him online, (first time for that in my mid forties , as is he). We video skyped for two months and it was amazing, wonderful. He was everything. We had so much in common, i honestly thought i had found my souldmate.

So, i decided to fly to the US to meet him, and stayed in his house for a few weeks.

My now ex had a habit of venting every negative thing about me, real or exaggerated, to her online/ real life friends. She would use their backing her side to bolster her arguments with me and try to prove I'm 100% the problem. I told her that as her friend, they aren't going to call her out wen she is wrong. She disagreed and said that since they were her friends, they would be honest and tell her is she was being a jerk.

It's been 3 weeks since I broke up with my boyfriend. It's been hell for me because I still love him so much. I've been searching for answers every second. Finally when I read all the posts here about dating an ADHD man, all the questions are answered.

Hi, this is my first post so here goes. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and he has ADD. He's really insecure and has a few anger issues but they're pretty rare and only once has it been directed at me. But last night we went out with friends, got really drunk and jumped on the bus back to his house. As usual I fell asleep on the bus but this time when I woke up I was alone and about 45-50 minutes out of town. I called him like why am I alone in a strange town, where are you and he screams at me that he's at home, he's not responsible for me, its my fault and so on and on.

I am new to this so please be patient as I bungle my way through this question...... my husband and I have struggled for years.  Two months ago, he began using porn, registered for an extra marital affairs website and began taking a female co-worker out for a number of dinners.  He says there was never a physical affair and that he stopped just short of that.  We separated two months ago and he was recently diagnosed with ADHD (after 50+ years).

We have been talking a great deal and both of us are seeing our own therapists.

Hi, 

I am new to this site and just trying to understand why a relationship that was going really well became a disaster in just 8 months of marriage. I am not certain that my husband has ADD but it's something a friend of his with ADHD has mentioned (to him not me) and i was wondering if others had been through this? We are now separated - he has threatened suicide and divorce multiple times and developed  habit of leaving overnight that how now (possibly) become permanent.

...THIS WILL BE LONG...

Hello, I have been reading here for quite some time. Finally I thought it might be useful to give some input as someone who grew up the father has ADD/anxiety/depression and the relationship of the parents can be described as co-dependent.

First of all, when you are a child you think how you grow up is the "normal" way even when things happen that seem to be disturbing after a while. Of course, you do not have any insight or explanation at that point in time. You just live in a certain environment.

This is my first time writing in. I am very anxious to hear back from others that may be fighting the same battle. What I have found more lately than ever before is that my husband had NO common sense. It was probably this way all along, but perhaps it didn;t bother me as much as it does now.What I am talking about it making the logical decision about anything. Sure it is mostly on the fly when he is in a hurry,but even when he has time to think about it he always makes it more difficult than it needs to be. It's the long way or the complicated way.

As I surf over the posts on this forum it revels many common themes concerning our marriages, our spouses and us...I just want to address one that seems common to us all....And it's our feelings about the blind spots (emotional abandonment) our spouses have concerning us...It seems based on your comments and rants, along with my life experience's this is very common among us....

So, lets look at a few things we all can agree on as the problems...Based on the information in these forums and again in my experiences, lets try to ask some questions that can help us....

My partner and I have been together for 15 years and the last five have been extremely hard.  I have contemplated leaving many times.  I hate how I feel around him.  There is very little effort, little sharing of partnership, a lot of similarities to what I have been reading on this site.  What I would like to know, is it better for those who have left?  Is it better for you mentally?  Better for your children?  I so want to do the right thing and I do love my partner but his ADHD is destroying me and I don't know how long I can continue to endure it.