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When he goes out to get fast food, he NEVER comes back with he right stuff.  Then he gets pissed..SUPER pissed.  He tries to blame the people working there, but it always seems like he is really blaming himself.  I never seem to have the same issue. 

Recently, I was with him in the car and I didn't understand at first what he was ordering, he was saying it all wacky and I could see how the people inside would be confused.  Because I am learning to speak his language, I could see what he was doing though. 

I took a lot of responsibility for my spouse's stuff. It was how I developed my marriage into a parent/child relationship. For more than the past year, I had - HAD - to let go of him all together. His anger.  His ADHD.  I made my plan to love him as a person and the father of our children - but plan my own life going forward without him. His stuff says NOTHING about me, but everything about him. I chose to work on my stuff.  My spouse has to work on his.  A broken relationship is just that - a broken relationship.

I was curious, for those of you who have significant others that are taking medication, is that a double edged sword?  The only time I have ever known my SO without meds was during pregnancy.  I gotta tell you, that was the best times between us, but hard on her for work.  It was hard for her to concentrate.   However, she was happy, fun, and easygoing.  Then, after she was done breastfeeding, she started again with the meds.  At first it was just on days when there was a big project, and now its every day.  Now she seems like she is emotionless.  Constantly working.  This is great for us f

Sometimes we need to say what is on our minds to be authentic and true to ourselves. Sometimes we need to hold our tongue and let things go.

Another question here: My ADHD husband spends an EXHAUSTIVE amount of time worrying about everything. He is now (thankfully) doing many more things around the house that he wouldn't ever do before, but BEFORE he does them, he has to WORRY several days or weeks about it....BEFORE he actually DOES the thing he's supposed to do. This shows up when he has to fix something that's broken, or call someone on the phone, or go to the store or bank.....pretty much anything.

I am a 41 year old female married for 19 years, i have not been diagnosed officially, and my husband has been committing financial and emotional abuse the entire time, and deception takes two. I can tell you the whole story from my slanted view, but i really need help with what he just did yesterday.

My husband of 26 years was recently diagnosed with ADHD. My threat of divorce finally moved him to seek help for his many issues. And, although we now have a "label" for his behavior, the diagnosis does nothing to alleviate the many years of anger and resentment that have accumulated in my heart towards him.

I love my husband, but I don't know what to do with the anger he has elicited. And that is difficult to deal with.

I'm sure other ADHD spouses have confronted the same issue and wonder how they overcame this gigatic marital hurdle.

So like many non-ADHD spouses on this forum, I struggle with acceptance.  My counselor and I have been working on this a LOT--how to accept my ADHD DH for who he is-period.  Not who I wish he would be-after all, he has been this way for the entire 20 years of our marriage, so why is it bothering me so much now?

My whole relationship with my ADHD spouse can be explained with one word...tired. In fact, that is the one word he knows from me time and time again. He is going to be 35 in July, and we have been together off and on for nine years. I will be honest I have dissociative identity disorder, and the switches can be terrifying and unsettling. My own mental health is often unstable, and I feel guilty. My husband often claims he is abused, unloved, mistreated, and he doesn't deserve this to happen to him.