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As I've mentioned above, I'm the problem. I have ADHD and it's causing issues in my relationship. Reading some of the posts here, I see that this is maybe the incorrect forum as most forum writers appear to be the competent spouses with issue. I am the issue. I have only been married for 1 month and I already feel like my wife is losing her mind taking care of me. 

I'm very new to this whole new world of information and I'm finally able to understand my reactions and responses for all these years! I can't tell you how much reading this book has been the best and at times the worst news I've ever read. I'm not alone and I firmly believe that change is possible. Now that I've been diagnosed I can pin point all the problem areas to a "T" throughout our entire marriage...Too little too late my spouse says, as he filed for divorce in November and moved out of our house shortly after.

Just a quick post to say that my wife and I had a good day together. In all my thinking, writing and processing lately....I made a reference to the movie "The Odd Couple" with Walter Mathou and Jack Lemmon saying I needed to watch it again (after 30 + years? ). I suggested it too my wife after telling her that I made this mention because I thought it was such a perfect comparison to the two of us in more ways than one. Anyway.....yesterday was movie day and we sat and watched it again with a new set of eyes.

My husband was diagnosed four years ago with ADD/bipolar and depression. We live 3 hours from the nearest ADHD specialist. We're still trying to figure out the medications that are right for him. Still not finding a therapist nearby who is the right fit or really knows their stuff, which is probably the reason that the medication has still not been figured out in four years.

My boyfriend has ADHD and like everyone else, I had no idea until the sweet, attentive man I moved in with turned into the completely opposite. It's 4 years later and now he spends every single weekend going out with new "friends" he's made in the neighborhood. I am never invited. I've been told that I "get in the way" of him "making friends" If I walk up to the bar and he's there, he will literally leave. He stays out until 2, 3 even 4 in the morning. Every other weekend, he drinks until he vomits. I also suspect he may be snorting coke.

Hi.

I've been living with my ADD boyfriend for 4 months.  I had no idea he had ADD until he moved in - like everyone on here, it seems.

We were working towards marriage, in fact, he bought an engagement ring.  But, we've been fighting so much lately, he hasn't proposed.  No problem there, honestly, as I didn't want to make a commitment, after what I'd seen.

Like everyone else on here, he has an abundance of wonderful qualities.  But, his bad ones, all ADD-related, have gotten to be too much to bear.

Monday will be my 30th wedding anniversary.  Regulars here know my story; suffice it to say that my husband deserted me and has irretrievably broken the relationship.  My emotions don't allow me to ignore the anniversary but I'd like to do something positive (and inexpensive), easy or challenging, to mark the day (one I don't feel fondly about) but also to mark my resolve to keep going on my own.  Any thoughts?

Okay everyone--reality check here.  DH and I got into a BIG argument this morning.  Here's the deal--we see a marriage counselor on Fridays at 5:30 when he is in town.  We have not been able to see the counselor with any regularity because of how much DH travels for business and we really need it!  So it's been three weeks since we have seen the guy AND YET...  Our oldest son is a JV water polo player (sophomore) and he is really good so this evening the coach put him on the varsity team.  That is huge.  It's at a school about 40 minutes away.

I don’t know if I am writing this for advice or for someone to share my pain…….I simply can’t see my future anymore.  I so crave happily ever after and for so many years have just lived day to day, hour to hour.  I wish I had a magic wand to fix it all ….

I am married for over 10 years to an ADHD Biopolar man.  My hubby found out 3 years ago.  I would like to give you a brief history and seek your advice.  Truthfully I am trying to answer the following questions and hope that your experience can guide me:

Do I stay with my husband for my child to be happy?

My partner is an adult in her 40's and has diagnosed ADHD.

She is on meds (ritalin generic) and wants to have a baby. I have to do most of the housework as she either can't concentrate, sees it as beneath her or is just lazy, the effect is the same though, I have to do it. . I despair at the thought of all the work that having a baby entails knowing that she will probably do less and I will have to do most of it.

She is hugely argumentative and drinks far too much. I am thinking that if she shouts any more and points her finger at me I will say enough, you're dumped.