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Hello everyone! First and foremost I would like to express how extremely happy I am learning about this website. I have only read few topics (for now), and it already made me feel relieve. It makes me feel sane knowing that I am not alone in this "battle".

I have been in and out of therapy for most of my life for a variety of issues that I could never seem to put a finger on.  I stumbled across this site and Melissa's book as my relationship to my fiance continues to decline.  I resonated with so much of what I have read thus far and am convinced that I have ADHD and it is negatively affecting my relationship.  I plan to discuss this with my therapist in our next meeting, but when I brought this up to my fiance, she was skeptical that all it provides is validation and nothing else.

I realize this site is focused on ADHD; however, my husband is not diagnosed as such that I know of.  We've been married almost 30 years.  The first 5 were horrible; he drank til he passed out all the time.  He got sober in 1991.  Fell off the wagon in 2006 til 2009 and has been sober since then.  He was a mean drunk.  He's mean when he's sober too and selfish.  We both have strong personalities, so I don't let him bully me.  Everything I say, or do, he opposes.  Every issue becomes and argument no matter how irrelevant.....He likes to dispute, debate, discount everything I say.   I have mo

Hi all,

I thought some of you might be interested to know that there's a French-Canadian movie out at the moment about a teenage boy with ADHD and his mother. The movie's called "Mommy". Basically it's the story of how she tries to cope with bringing him up. My boyf (who has ADHD) and myself (who doesn't) both really enjoyed it and thought it very true to life. I have to warn you, it is very sad and disturbing in places, but also very funny and touching in others. Good to see the subject getting some intelligent media coverage in any case.

Best, 

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Hi, I live in the Great Lakes area, am in a lengthy marriage with four children, and was diagnosed a few years back. Now we're in deep trouble and I just need some outside eyes.

 I'm now talking to those of us who have ADHD ........and it's addressing the very thing that I think that many us fail to see or remember in important moments when dealing with our spouses, partner's or SO's... especially!

Because our minds are in constant motion with difficulty turning it off or changing directions.....we need to mindful that we do not assume that everyone else is like this....which is painfully obvious at this point.  Just a few words to state what I feel is not getting said from the inside looking out........

A couple of my FB friends posted this article within the last couple of weeks. I don't know either of them well enough to know if they were posted it because they have ADHD, they love someone with ADHD, or they just found it interesting.

I'd like reactions from non-ADHD spouses. I'm not going to share my reaction right away. I want to hear from others first.

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I originally found this site when I was searching "husband doesn't thank me for dinner." The more I read, the more I realized it wasn't me with the problem.

Background - my husband is the one with ADD. We've been married almost 25 years. Five years ago he started therapy for depression and eventually was diagnosed with ADD. He has been on meds for both for the past four and a half years.

Is this what it means then:  a life of stuggled relationships and secret or obvious frustration and resentment.  On both ends?  First one that has effected me.  Others I have been the one to conflict pain and suffering without aconsideration but now...I see.  What I did..and what demising feeling it leaves behind.  Confused left...disregarded.  Communication is key regardless of your situation but communication is key.  For me...I'm an excapest..I just made that up..but I retreat into my own head space..while the other is getting more and more frustrated and angry.

My Husband and I employed the services of a counselor, I was adamant that he not counsel my ADD Husband alone as he would be manipulated and not get a clear picture of problems.  My Husband likes to present himself in a positive light, and is defensive, and presents me in a negative light.  Our marriage was in serious trouble, and I told him if he did this we would fail and end up divorced.  Well, this has happened, he met with us twice, fell prey to my husband's manipulations, and I haven't seen him since.  My Husband realizes now that it was a mistake and wants me to go with him to his ap