We swapped cars so that I could use his truck to move into my new place. He kept telling me he was going to wash and detail it. How we needed to meet early so he could get it done. Uh, it takes me about 20 min to do that well and HE'S the one claiming to be a master detailer:/
Well, he claimed no time to detail it after washing it. Not even a quick vacuum.
Short version: We were engaged and living together, along with his twin autistic 18-year-old boys (VERY difficult kids who have serious anger issues and can be violent). Two months before our wedding, he said he did not know if he wanted to get married - that he had not grieved his wife's passing, that he had never had time to be himself. I found he had been surfing a dating site. I caught him in a bunch of lies and DEMANDED that he call a therapist.
I have been reading the contributions on this site for almost a year now and feel that I should make my own. Whilst reading up about child ADHD I happened upon a link to adult ADHD. I clicked and read and it was the biggest and brightest light bulb moment I've ever had.I have been married for 30 years. Like so many of us, I met and married my husband after a whirl wind romance, having been in a steady relationship for 5 years. He was, and is, a good man. He was, and is, a good father.He has always worked hard. But he has been a bad husband.
Unbeknownst to me, most of my adult life has been impacted by ADHD. I signed on to a dramatic history. My (ADHD) husband was an only child raised by an undiagnosed ADHD single mother who was wholly unequipped. He grew up with an alcoholic, drug addicted, suicidal, unpredictable mother. Sadly, she died alone, estranged from her son and only grandchild, never having gotten an ADHD diagnosis despite having seen many psychologists and psychiatrists. We also survived my husband's own drug addiction (which he bravely and successfully fought).
I'm on Vyvanse.
1. How does it work? Not mentally, I mean does something else effect me besides the amphetamine?
2. should I feel it controlling the ADHD immediately, Once I feel the amphetamine kick in? or is it something that has to build into my system like anti-depression drugs do?
3. Should it last after the amped feeling is gone? Or should the ADHD control continue for the rest of the day? Because It seems to work for my procrastination. But it wears done in about 9 hours and I crash, making my ADHD worse.
H and his 16 y/o daughter had a BAD BAD fight about 2 months ago and there hasn't been any contact between them since. Well at least not any contact that was returned. After about a month my husband texted her when he was at this conference showing her a picture of what he got her. She immediately wrote back "Aww you didn't have to do that"and it went back and forth a few times and then he said "I love you and I'll always be here for you". Then, apparently not realizing who she was talking to, goes "Is this Charlie?" He replies with "This is your dad". She never texted back.
Hello everyone,
My wife called me to tell me she wanted us to take on a project I want go into the specifics, but just let me say it was people related, and would definitely call for commitment of time and energy. So as she is relaying all her desires and expectations for me, to me. I couldn't help but think, her we go again....Anyway, I declined, she wasn't very happy about it...So, I would like to run it by you guys...This is my note to her concerning this incident and my request to her about future endeavor she wants us to take on.
Hi. I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to something that frustrates me very much. My husband, who has been diagnosed at various points with depression, anxiety, and ADHD, has seen many therapists over the years and has taken medications on and off. Some of those forays into treatment have been at my encouragement or insistence. I have occasionally received indirect feedback from the therapists, most notably the person who said I should butt out and the person who said I should come in for sessions with my spouse.
I have had a terrible cold for the last week. I come home from work and collapse, sleep until 10, and go to bed. Its all I can do to go to work. I go to work because I am going to have a hysterectomy in 2 or 3 weeks, scheduled next week and want to have all the sick leave for that. My house is destroyed! If I can't count on him to help out when I am sick, what is going to happen when I'm down for 6 weeks? This all comes two weeks after having the talk about really needing him to step up for me and he wholeheartedly agreed. For me, this is really one of the last nails in the coffin.
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