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Endless circle that seems to be getting worse with my ADHD husband. I don't get it and I don't know what to do.

I have been trying to be supportive since his diagnosis in January 2009 but it is becoming increasingly more difficult as I get more and more overwhelmed. Do any of you see things getting worse as opposed to better over time?

Where do I start...

I am editing my story, because I feel as if I shared too much identifiable information about myself and my life, which left me feeling really exposed. I will consider resharing at another time when I feel more together. Possibly after I see a counselor. So much of my story is mixed up inside of the chaos of ADHD, and its been so many years, I'm not sure I can untangle myself from it all.

WOW! Exactly how many things can a person have going on at once. Add, depression and panic disorder is my life on a daily basis. Living as a married adult it has been very, very difficult not just for me but for my wife as well. You see she is an extrovert and is very anal and precise about everything. It has been as hard for me as it has been for her. She doesn't really understand why I feel and do the things I do and it frustrates her to no end. To make matters worse, I work with her every day in her business because our finances dictate that I help her.

No longer shall intimidation, cowardice on my part, duress,  enabling, "keeping the peace" , smoothing things out, peace at all costs, acting co-dependant, being foolish, making stupid mistakes to hold the peace,  any actions not in my best interest - rule my life.

Liz

I am the non-ADHD partner, a 35 year old male.  My wife is 34, and suffers from not only ADHD, but BPD, OCD, PTSD, and generalized Anxiety.  It's an interesting combination.

We followed the standard formula - meet, have an amazing dating life, amazing sex life, quickly get married, and three months later, wind up pregnant with our first daughter (now 2).

Hello!

I just picked up my first prescription for stimulant ADHD, Metadate, and am optimistic.

Online, most of what I read focuses on side effects.  I am well-aware of these, and am now interested in hearing from those with experience in stimulant meds some of your positive experiences.

On successful prescriptions:

How long until it kicks in?  Will there be some instant lucidity, or does it come slowly as we repeat doses?  What does a positive result feel like?  

Thanks!

I got myself to a place of some contentment and peace a few weeks back.  Now I am floundering, and I am not really sure why. 

"The problem isn’t that you don’t know what’s going on; it’s that you’ve had trouble sorting it all out."

Kirshenbaum, Mira (1997-07-01). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship (p. 6). Plume. Kindle Edition. 

WOW

Greetings all!

First time on here… in fact, new to realizing I have ADHD.

At 43 years old, I seem at first rather successful in life – good career, winning competitor in several (and strangely unrelated) disciplines, lots of wonderful friends, community/charity involvement, beautiful wife and children, big house etc. 

Sounds great, right?  Well for example…