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I recently started seeing someone and while there are many great qualities about him, the way that he behaves in public makes me uncomfortable. I'm having a really hard time wondering if it's worth it to stay,  how to talk to him without hurting his feelings or making it seem like I'm trying to change him. Also, I've been feeling guilty and awful that it bothers me this much, and maybe the issue is my own. 

I don't know why in the world I thought that just because he lies to his customers about why he's not on time, and to his kids/family, that he would NOT lie to me... but is that part of this whole thing? Or is it something else?

Good morning everyone!

I'm brand new to this forum after finding out my hubbys issues are directly related to ADD. My counselor suggested it could be the cause of his lack of attention, spending all day either in front of the TV or laptop and all the piles of stuff everywhere in our house. I stumbled upon this site and have been reading everything I can get my hands on. I ordered the ADD Effect on Marriage which should be here tomorrow. 

I find it interesting how some days I feel so strong in dealing with this and on others I wake up, startled and feeling so alone and confused.  

My DH was diagnosed two months ago. He started on Vyvanse 30 mg I think it was, but then after he got home from work he would just have these mood swings, anything could set him off. The DR said some people need something else in the afternoon when they "crash" from the meds. So she gave him Adderall .  Now he's taking Adderall XR in the morning and an Adderall booster in the evening. 

Yesterday I wrote in the angry and frustrated area that my adhd partner informed me she had forgotten to take her meds.  We had plans and this information gave me fear of what would become of those plans.  I was all prepared to have to accept a very different , I productive and disconnected day with her.  She went out in the yard and began an activity that usually takes her so far away that she doesn't make it back inside until sometimes 9 at night.....even though it should only take her about 2 hours!

I am a 56-year old widow (7 years) and was engaged to a 55-year-old widower (2 years) who recently told me that he is just too busy to get married on September 27th as planned.  All of the signs of ADD/HD are there - and since he stopped the clock, I have learned much more. 

I just need to vent!  I am so sick of this!!!  We are on vacation and going to have a good time and she just informed me that she only took 2 meds today because she forgot to,take,the other two!!  I read in this sight that we can't remind them to take their meds but then I feel powerless!!  On only two pills she is extremely distracted, can be argumentative, is shut down and can be really hard to get to follow through with plans (we have some tonight) and sex!  Ha forget about it......it sucks so bad I don't even want to do it!!