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I've been reading a lot about codependency and realize now how much it has affected me and how I dealt with my guy. Previously, I had just been reading about his ADD, never knowing I had anything, which of course is also codependency...trying to fix someone else. I'm not sure where my codependency started. Everything I've read says it can start from something in childhood, but I can't really think of anything there. I have to wonder if it could've happened because my first love/best friend of 9 years ended our relationship by writing a letter and then I never saw him again.

So today was the day I had to discuss the divorce agreement with spouse.  Hadn't seen him in 2 years.  He walked out almost 4 yrs ago, and took a job in another state (wasn't the first time he had left).  I find out 2 weeks later he was having an affair.  I went through hell the last 3 1/2 yrs over this.  We were married 27yrs, I stayed home and raised the kids.  He traveled and always worked but that was it.  No parenting, no support, couldn't let me express myself.  Most people ask me, "well, you must have had some good years".  Nope!  Can't say that I did.  Everyone w

Yesterday, as I posted elsewhere, my wife was diagnosed with ADD overlapping with Asperger's and OCD.

I just got home from work and I'm exhausted.  I drive an hour to get home from work, which took longer than usual today.  I asked my husband to pick up milk, but I just knew he forgot, so I stopped to get it.  When I got home, I found him unloading the car.  He decided to go grocery shopping because there was "no food in the house" (of course he didn't get milk).  I just went to the store two days ago.  What he got was 90% junk and convenience foods.

Hello all,

After a month of reading this forum, I'm delurking to introduce myself and to announce that my wife was diagnosed today with ADD overlapping with Aspergers and OCD.

It sure appears to me that my ADHD spouse can be late - but cannot tolerate others being late.  

Can neglect returning phone calls for days or even weeks - but cannot tolerate others not returning his calls to them.  

Can forget to do something and it is excusable - but cannot tolerate others forgetting to do things.

Can snarl or bark in anger -   but feels attacked if someone snarls or barks at him.

Like many couples in this forum, my bf and I struggle with trust issues sometimes. I will try to give a little background first before I ask my main question.

Sorry for such a personal question, but wondering if any of the Non-ADHD spouses have found it helpful to take an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety meds? My husband of 12 years was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 43 years old. Our marriage has always been a struggle and we have been in couples counseling on and off for 7 or 8 years. We have two young children (one under the age of 2), but  I believe my elementary aged daughter suffers from ADHD as well.

I recently found the book and started reading it.  It was like looking at my life.  I was afraid to make suggestions to my ADD husband based on what I was reading because he is so often like a rebellious teenager whenever I make suggestions to him.  I was so surprised when he replied, "I can tell you really love me.  You know me so well and are always trying to help me."  It was so sweet, it almost brought tears to my eyes.  

Hello everybody,