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I am reading a good little book called, "Soul-mates.  How to Find Them and Keep Them." Here is an excerpt I would like to share which I can sense is what has happened to our marriage:

He talks. From the moment his eyes open till he falls asleep. I dont say a thing because by the time I do, he's on to another topic or I cant keep up with the ten different trains of thoughts he crams into a 30 minute speech at me. I TRY and pay attention and look interested, but come on...really??? I just cant do it. Things and people and places and activities and objects and news stories....on and on and on.

I feel that I have recently had a breakthrough and would like to share!  I recently posted about my confusion under the Anger topic of this forum, and talked with a lady that helped me so much understand her point of view and what I did not understand.  I wanted to know why was it so hard for me (the ADHD spouse) to understand my non-ADHD husband?  Countless times we would argue and he would say I was blaming him and I would feel like he was blaming me.  

Hello, I have been dating a wonderful man for 4 months now. In those four months our relationship has completely spiraled out of control. Some of it I feel is me not understanding his ADHD. Him not communicating, and possibly the fact that he feels like he is an alcoholic.  THere is no talking to him. He shuts down immediately when I try to quietly communicate my views. As I read more into ADHD I am seeing things that trigger his shut downs, but I did not know it would be something I need to research before starting a relationship.

My husband has ADD and dyslexia.  He was diagnosed during childhood.  From the beginning of our relationship, his forgetfulness and carelessness have always been an issue.  He was very careless with his money and had a significant amount of debt before we married.  I found it easier to assume the bills, because then I knew they were taken care of and paid (or not paid late.)  I eventually just started assuming more and more responsibilities.  When he was left with something, I found he never did it, or did it wrong and I had to suffer the consequences of his decisions.  Four years ago, we h

So, I posted earlier this week that I decided to end my relationship with my DH of almost 3 years because of his lack of effort to maintain and work on his own condition.  His ADHD has made life very painful for both of us, and I finally cracked.  It has become a choice of spend time with my mother in another state because she has stage 4 cancer that isn't getting any better, or stay with my DH and work on our relationship.  I have been on this treadmill for 2 years since his diagnosis but he still wont even take his meds.  Here are the details if you want background:

I've posted before, my husband has ADD (inattentive), forgetful, angry, can't follow through with anything, bad parent, etc.  He was diagnosed last spring, he is on meds and sees that dr regulary.  He saw a therapist but after 2 sessions she moved, got a new therapist-saw her twice then never called her for another appt.  He finally, the other week, called a different place and had a consultation with a new therapist.  He has also been reading a book on ADHD that I gave him called your life can be better.  This is the book that I told him about a couple months ago and he said I don't have A

I'm a 26 year old male with ADHD. My wife and i met 7 years ago at work, were dating for 6 months then engaged, stuff progressed fairly quick, were married six months after that. two months after marriage my wife was pregnant with  our first child. I Spent my 21st birthday at home with a pregnant wife, went through kind of a crisis, tried to prepare for our first by buying a house, two cars and so on.

I am finally ready to get off this ADHD merry go round, exhausted and disorientated with life.  My husband has so many great qualities but I cannot cope with the instability of our relationship any longer. It is like having a cross awkward, dopey child one minute and an overexcited child with tunnel vision the next. I never feel I can rely on him to be a husband that I can turn to, for him to take the lead.  He is wonderfully loving to me and my children but has caused us so much pain. Cheating, drugs, alcohol, lying...you name it he's put us through it.

This may be a long shot, but just curious if there is, perhaps, a commonality with this like there has been with so many other things among us all.

Do any of your ADHD partners often get sick/or are often just always feeling a bit "off"?

My ex-BF seemed to be sick so often (it was long distance so obviously hard for me to ascertain).  He very often had headaches, heartburn, felt foggy...he caught colds easily and often had stomach issues.  He also had a sleep disorder and if able, would often sleep for 12-16+ hour stretches.