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My boyfriend and I dated 19 years ago for a year.  We reconnected in late 2011 and discovered we still feel the same way about each other.  We had a tumultuous 2012 due to his entanglements with his ex-wife (divorced 8 years). After a 9 month separation (he's east coast, I'm west), he called, and we've had the most amazing last 2 months.  Long talks about everything we've been through.  He calls me the love of his life, his best friend, the woman of his dreams, etc.  He told his friends, neighbors, and co-workers I'm his girlfriend.  He had me talk to some of them on the phone.

Hi Guys,

I have been reading this website on and off for 3 years now. I have read Melissa's and Ned's books and own many more related to understanding ADHD and own every self help relationship book under the sun. I am 35 and have been with my bf (who has ADD) who is 34 for 3 1/2 years now. He was diagnosed as a child and has been on meds for years on and off. He gets his adderal from his family physician.

It seems I've been member for 49 weeks, which the computer told me when I tried to create a new account.

Sounds like standard operating procedure for me.  I can't afford fancy 'seminars and all' but hopefully can gain some kind of discussion from this that might help. My husband (who is not the adhd one, at least accordign to him, anyway....) asserts adhd is not real and it is an excuse for Lazy, I could remember things and pick them up if I wanted to, I would not interrupt him if I cared what he was saying, etc.

I currently am going insane and I can't control it.  I have the weight of the world on my shoulders and no help from boyfriend instead he is sitting on the world.

here is some back story

Last night, I heard an interview on BBC Radio 2 with the UK's most well-known poet - Pam Ayres. She was promoting her new book of poems called "You've made me late again" and read the poem of the same name which I thought would be well received by all those long-suffering partners. I've put the link below and it is right at the end of the 13 minute interview, but only available for the next 6 days, so be quick!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p01hxq3k

Hello all,

I just happened upon this forum since I was searching the internet to find out why I leave the kitchen cabinet doors open whenever I cook.  I also jump out of my shoes when I come into the kitchen.  I do not have ADHD at all.  I know what ADHD is because my son has it.  I am not forgetful.  I am not a daydreamer.  I do not lose things.  I do not have any of the classic symptoms of ADHD and no one would ever suspect that it is something I have.

I have been dating this guy with ADHD for about a year and half now... 

it's been like a roller coaster... and at some point, he made me believe I am the one who needs therapy, I am the one who is needy, I am the one who blames everything on him.

We have been apart for the past several months, and we agreed there was no chance for this relationship if long distance. 

So, I landed a job and was about to move there, across the continent. 

 Well the day of reckoning has finally come.

I physically pay most of the family's bills but I ask my husband for (and usually receive) payment from him for his share of joint bills (mostly our daughters' expenses).  Right now, we're living separately, at my request.  

As usual, I had told my husband several weeks in advance how much he would owe me for joint bills for September.  I reminded him a few times.  He assured me he would pay in a timely fashion.