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Here is my frustration for today:

I struggled with anorexia and bulimia from age 19 to about 30.  15 years of struggle.  "No quick fix."  was what I heard from psychiatrists/counselors.   My spouse used to come with me to some of my counseling.  The focus was me:  my issues; how I coped with emotional pain through the eating disorder behavior; how difficult it was for  my spouse to be hopeless in 'making' me eat differently. 

I'm beyond frustrated tonight.  For many years I've tried to quietly get the keys when leaving a restaurant when my husband has been drinking.  I've tried to hide it from my child.  My spouse often argues & minimizes what he's had to drink.  We had a big blowout on the same topic 4 yrs ago.  I've been very clear that I don't want him drinking while driving or driving us home after several mixed drinks or beers -  especially not with our son in the vehicle. It's silly when I'm sober to take the risk.

My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 5.  We have a 5 year old son with autism and have an 8 month old daughter.  Life with my husband has had many wonderful moments and I find myself loving him time and time again.  He holds a job and has held a job our whole relationship and I know statistically he is an anomaly.  I should also mention that in the last two years he has begun the meds dance with anti-depressents and stimulants.  He also suffers from OCD, tourettes, and of course ADHD.

Hello,

I am new to this forum. My husband and I are self-employed. We have been married for 15 years and have been working together for about 16 years. We have so many difficulties working together, largely due to his ADHD issues (and my unproductive coping mechanisms...) I'd like to hear from others who are also dealing with this.

Thank you

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I will be taking care of all three kids for three days in May. My wife has never been away from all of our children at the same time for this long. She went to Chicago over a long weekend with some friends a few months ago and took R(4yrs,boy) and T(13mth,boy). I took E(2yrs,girl) to my family's hunting camp and visited down there.

I'm trying to see the humor in this situation, but it's difficult to do so.  My husband decided to drive home today from his parents' house (2 1/2 hours away) without his pants on.  Because it was hot.  And because he apparently doesn't understand normal societal and social boundaries.    

I suppose this may belong in the 'Treatment' section of this forum.  I am posting it here because 99.9% of my interactions and posting are in this section.

I am new to this forum...and i have just realized my husband wasnt kidding when he told me he has adhd. I love him and I want to grow old with him...but if he doesnt do something about his adhd, i will be forced to leave. We have been married for five years, together for seven. We have a four year old and a newborn. We both have college degrees, a mortgage, both work professional jobs....and we have hopes and dreams. The downfall is I sticking to our goals...and how we initially plan to achieve them. tbc...

I get so frustrated with myself for apologizing all the time when my ADD husband and I get into conflict.  He always tells me why I am wrong to feel what I feel or react how I react.  I honestly wish I was just a robot and then maybe there would be peace in this household.  If only I didn't have feelings, expectations, frustrations and heaven forbid negative reactions to anyone else's behavior that lives under my roof.  I'm not allowed to express any of this  or I am "unloading" on him.  It takes about 500 positive interactions to make up for any negative interaction with him.  So, that mea