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I wasn’t sure whether to post this as a vent or a story of hope – I’ve gone with hope – because as you will see I’m a bit of an optimist – but maybe I shouldn’t be!

Daily I think of the person I once was and the person I have now become inside of myself.  I can't believe how I have changed.  I used to be SUPER competent, happy inside, well-adjusted, good outlook, faith-filled.  I know about operant conditioning and feel that while dh has made some advances in his standard of living since we married and I have been a good influence on him, I have compromised myself into being LESS THAN I was because of my constant allowances and trying to understand him and be WITH him.  My focus today, and for the next year, is to heal myself.

I have been married for 18 yrs to an ADD spouse.  His ADD has gotten worse over the years.  The biggest things we struggle with are is general inattentiveness to the relationship, chronic lateness, clutter with all his belongings and inability to but anything where it belongs.  He seems incapable of seeing how these things negatively affect me and our household.  I'm always supposed to be the understanding wife.  I get very weary of it and stay stressed out much of the time.  It has gotten to the point that we are very testy with each other most of the time and always on the defensive.  It

I'm 46 and have been diagnosed with ADHD for about five years.  I have been taking 36mg of concerta daily but am feeling as though I may need to titrate up a bit or change the meds as my distraction level is high. I have not engaged in any talk therapy or ADD coaching since being diagnosed.  

My ADHD husband and I have been struggling for several years with symptoms from his ADHD. I'm finding our story is the same as many of you, after reading through the forum and reading "The ADHD Effect on Marriage". So My Husband has finally agreed to search for a therapist, take medication, or whatever it takes to treat these symptoms that are causing turmoil in our day to day lives. Now I feel like we are at a stand still. The very few therapists we have found that deal with adult ADHD are booked months in advance. Others specialize in children or do not deal with ADHD.

Hi guys,

I have posted on here before and vented my frustrations but tonight I'm heart broken. I just separated from my ADHD partner and have moved out. Today was spent moving all my stuff up to my dads house and now here I am alone with my thoughts (I also have ADHD) and feel anxious and unettled.

I am am about a month into this process of learning about ADHD and attempting to put in place some structure to mitigate my symptoms. There is so much overlap to our(wife and I) situation that I am confident that this is the root of the issue, but the more I read the more the overall summary of ADHD seems to veer off my experience. Specifically I was reading part of Melissa's book last night:

I have read Melissa’s book ( and several others regarding ADHD ) and have read many posts in this forum over the past few months.  I still do not know some of the acronymns but decided it was time to throw our story out there to see if anyone had comments or could offer any insight.

Hi! A little about me first, since this is my first post.  I'm nearing 30 and have been happily unmarried to my ADHD man for six years and change.  I know this site is all about ADHD and marriage, but not everyone can marry, and some of us choose not to.  Almost everything is still germane to any long-term relationship with an ADHD partner, so I've been finding the site very helpful!

Here's the story of my "relationship" with someone with ADHD.... I think, this might be something new for you all...