I'm new to the forum and have been doing as much research as possible to understand my ADHD, but I need some help and I don't know where else to look so any help would be appreciated. Here is my story:
I have worked too hard for too many years. DH works enough to "get by and have fun". I have supported and tried to help him and given to him and our children. DH just wants to have fun and takes it easy and uses his time and energy to soothe and take care of himself. I look around and see this is happening all around me. There is one diva/fun loving/devil-may-care spouse and one who holds it all together with commitment and work. It seems that the fun one is truly happier than the worker and the worker resents the freeloader. Yet the freeloader gets rewarded again and again.
The disclaimer - this is my first post to this site, so if I'm not doing this the right way or in the right place please steer me to the proper forum/format.
The short version: my husband was given a screening test for ADD that came back negative. I have not been able to find this testing method listed anywhere and would really like more information about it and its accuracy.
I think this might help both the ADDers and everyone who now and then feel overwhelmed or just lazy. I will try this out today. I can only imagine that, when given the choice of standing in a spot and doing NOTHING for a set period of time (no eating, distraction, games, tv, etc.) or doing a specific task, that I would choose to do a specific task. This would be a discipline/habit/tool that would help anyone who feels unmotivated.
Like so many others, I’ve been a long time reader of this site and have greatly benefited from people sharing their stories. Finally, I’ve decided to get over the nerves of posting and ask for some advice about coping with my ex-ADHDer.
Hi Forum,
I really don't know where to start. But i know i have a problem. I read a story earlier today here and it touched my heart cause i thought it was me writing it. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but my Girlfriend (GF) has said it in the past. Reading about it to day has convinced me I may have it. we started seeing an LPC at a psychiatry center last week. My GF has been diagnosed with add and a mood disorder, she takes zoloft and adderall.
Hi there everyone,
This is my first time posting in this wonderful site. Reading other peoples posts and situations has really helped me to come down from a very big anger/frustration/anxiety attack which almost resulted in me moving out from the home I share with my ADHD girlfriend who I have lived with for 6 months. I also have been diagnosed with ADHD about a year and a half ago.
She has ADHD which was only diagnosed a few months ago after I watched her struggle in various aspects of her life and suggested she get referred for assessment:
I don't know what to do _ I am the add person, my husband hates me - I mean he hates me - i think hes fallen out of love with me. My add has destroyed our marriage. See because of this he is depressed. he doesn't know what the day is going to bring so he just goes in a hole. He talks about how bored he is how he wants change. Ok so I bring up a ton of things we could do- or he could do by himself- doesn't help- he says I haven't laid the ground work for him to get better. By saying that - he wants peace- and if my add kicks in then its not peaceful.
Ok I am new to this but here it goes. My husband and I have been together for 20yrs. He is the love of my life. We have been through a thing or two. Ten years ago my mother was hit by a car in NM and killed instantly, we then took over the financial care of my grandmothers care who had Alzheimer. She past away about two years ago. Then about four years ago we started taking care of my aunt who also has Alzheimer. Now I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about nine. I have always had problems in school, ect ect. If things interest me I am the queen... I excel if not - well not at all.
I'm getting ready to turn 35. All my life, I've had classic symtoms of ADD and no one ever encouraged me to deal with it. I've been in emergency services since I graduated high school and have been a police officer for 11 years and still enjoy going to work everyday. It's the only job that every held my interest enough to make a career out of as I had over a dozen jobs before I doing this. I got married when I was 30 and my wife was 21. We've been married for 4 1/2 years.
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