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I was trying to explain this to a friend.  My husband has decided he wants to leave, and since i've been pretty miserable with him lately, I didn't oppose to the idea.  But still I still have thoughts about getting back together with him, still trying to mend things, still trying to work it out.  My friend thinks I'm nuts.  Ok, nuts isn't the right word, but he couldn't understand why I would want to go back when I've been so miserable.

The link below should be required reading for EVERYONE.  They should teach these things in school.  Love is not hyperfocus that fades.  Love is caring and nurturing and maintaining and being able to commit and embody trust.  The best equation for a good and happy marriage is to marry the right person.  How can you tell who is the right person for you?  I am embarrassed that I did not know these things when I was younger.  My young heart saw too many romance movies.   I guess I mistook all these things for love.

I am new here and stumbled across this site while searching for answers or help for my failing marriage, it seems that my story is quite similar to some here so I figured reaching out is worth a shot, I have nothing to lose! I am sorry in advance if this is long but being new here, I have a story to tell.

Well, that was another crappy night of covering up your feet with the blanket so they don't get cold, then having you roll over taking all the comfort with you and leaving me totally exposed. 

What a petty thing for me to say. Sounds bad coming out of my fingers. That's why I'm saying it here, where someone might get what I mean. 

Well, our relationship just reached a new low this evening although I'm sure it won't be the last. 

Every year, right after the holidays, my husband gets the itch to leave.  The holidays are a stressful time for a lot of people, and between all the family obligations, spending money on gifts, and having vacation time but not being able to do anything because of said family obligations and no money leftover for a trip, I can tell he once again feels bored in the relationship and puts the blame squarely on me.

Hello, just found this site and hope to learn alot.  Here is my situation:   I am in a relationship with a 45 year old male with ADHD.  He takes meds (concerta) and I have only known him since he has been taking it (so I don't have any sense of whether the medications help him or not because this is the only way I have known him). Here is my problem:  He has a horrible potty mouth! He uses the "f" word at least twice in every sentence.  I've explained that it offends me. I've explained that it makes him seem hostile, inappropriate and/or uneducated.  It just rolls off his tongue endlessly.

Hi,there, I am a new member and I was wondering if anyone out there could give me some advice please. I will try to keep it short and sweet if possible. I met this guy who lives opposite me,I have know him for a few years just to say hello to in passing. A few weeks ago things developed between us and at first things appeared to be ok but then I noticed a few things didn't add up, I knew he was a recovering alcoholic but had completely transformed and turned his life around for the better.

I'm new to the forum and have been doing as much research as possible to understand my ADHD, but I need some help and I don't know where else to look so any help would be appreciated.  Here is my story:

I have worked too hard for too many years.  DH works enough to "get by and have fun".  I have supported and tried to help him and given to him and our children.  DH just wants to have fun and takes it easy and uses his time and energy to soothe and take care of himself.  I look around and see this is happening all around me.  There is one diva/fun loving/devil-may-care spouse and one who holds it all together with commitment and work.  It seems that the fun one is truly happier than the worker and the worker resents the freeloader.  Yet the freeloader gets rewarded again and again.