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Imagine being made to feel crazy for over 30 years.  Imagine being angry and resentful and blaming yourself and being ashamed and guilty because you are angry and confused.  Imagine you are a person who MUST feel love inside yourself or go nuts!  Imagine you spread your love around your kids, your home, your neighborhood, your work and your husband.  Imagine doing it over and over and over.  Imagine your husband of over 30 years says to you, "What did you EVER do for me?

So, we had that conversation I was planning on...  Nothing definite decided yet, except that she wants a divorce ASAP (she wants to file as early as next week), she's planning on moving out (but she hopes to stay until next summer, so she can buy some furniture and save up for a down payment on a townhome or a security deposit for an apartment), and both of us want what's best for the kids.

I am diagnosed ADHD. My husband is undiagnosed ADHD. Our daughter, who is now turning 6, is most likely ADHD. My first obstacle is getting them diagnosed. I was fortunate to be diagnosed quite a while back when I was 17. My husband is willing to get the assessment and treatment, but the problem is finding someone who doesn't cost an arm and a leg. We have insurance, but a lot of psychologists don't take insurance; at least not for this. My first goal is to get him on medication, just to stop the bleeding. After that, we can focus on the next step.

So, there are a lot of posts in this area from a lot of really frustrated people (including me). 

Background: I've been with my ADD partner for about 18 months. We've lived together since day one as we were housemates before we were a couple. He hasn't been formally diagnose with ADD although he has finally made an appointment with a doctor and is waiting for a referral - I don't think either of us is in any doubt that he does have ADD.

 J.D.: "Well, if you don't mind me sayin so, he sounds like a real asshole."

THELMA: "It's okay. He is an asshole. Most of the time I just let it slide."                

                     

Just a quick background, my husband and I have been together for 3 years, married for 5 months. He was diagnosed with ADHD as a teen and he’s aware he has it. I’ve never educated myself on the disorder and since have dismissed it because I figure we all have our issues. We used to get along very well. In the beginning of our relationship it was my commitment issues and me taking things personally that put a strain on us, he was always more nurturing and patient than me, which is part of the reason why I love him.

A short frustrating story about tuna and wine....that did nothing but piss us both off within 5 minutes for the rest of the night....

I replied under another forum topic "Permission to enter his space"

I continue to mourn the fact that I have to ask permission to enter my husbands space. Why can't I just turn to my husband while we're sitting on the couch, and ask a normal, every day question, get an answer, then move on?

So, I'm slightly under 30 and she's slightly over It's EXTREMELY early in the relationship, but I'd rather know what I'm getting into before one of us is set up for heartbreak. I'm the guy, btw. We've both had bad luck with serious relationships.