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I'm turning a corner. This is a great site. For a while, it feels great to VENT, to get it out of your system all the things that are boiling inside and you don't say to family or friends.  It is great to have this place where you can be heard and understood. It is a great place to compare notes to weigh in to see if you are crazy or off base.  It is a great place to learn about the descriptions of relationships going through similar things and get some answers about WHY things are so challenging and what can be done.

Hello all....  just wanted to check in.

Some thing is wrong...he is losing his mind...could be a lot of things...any minute we would end up apart,maybe it's for the best,,but OMG!!

I need guidance for a person with ADHA & Marriage...

I think I have untreated undiagnosed ADHD.

My wife and myself are both stubborn and opinionated however I have these brief angry outbursts, short term memory loss and I get distracted very easy when in a conversation especially towards my wife when she questions or comments on something I've done wrong. I've been reading this blog and it sounds like I have adult ADHD.

He NEVER starts a conversation or calls me.  I tested to see how long he would go if I didn't approach him to talk.  Not a word or a nod for OVER FIVE DAYS and it was me who ended up approaching him!!! This weekend there was my family event and I said, "Don't go. You haven't talked to me in days.  I am tired of pretending to people that we are a couple. I will tell the people there we are fighting and I don't want you to be there."  THAT got his attention.

I am not sure this is being post in the right forum. My fiance has ADHD and we are in the midst of another break up/make up cycle. I love him and am not looking to change him, however I am becoming weary/anxious about moving forward with things with him, the instability of the relationship is making me question whether we are  strong enough together to work through whatever obstacles that we have to face.

Hi everyone...

Despite my dislike of using medications and financial problems and concerns about side effects, I've finally started to consider the possibility of asking my doctor about getting a prescription for an anti-anxiety medication.  My biggest fear is that the medication will work so well that I'll stop caring about my crappy marriage and will stop working to make myself and my life better.  What advice can non-ADHD spouses offer?  Thanks!

I am hoping someone can provide a comprehensive resource, or list of comprehensive resources, that discusses the various psychological problems that a non-ADHD spouse experiences due to the effects of living in an untreated/undertreated ADHD home.  All my searches wind up leading me to articles that speak almost exclusively about the ADHD spouse.  I am not talking about the spouse having their own disorder or anything--merely the psychological effects that the ADHD itself can create in the non-ADHD spouse.

I am sad to say that I am approaching 50 and have spent most of my life with people who dissappointment me. My parents, my husband. I do not have that high of standards that they are impossible to meet but I seem to be a magnet for people with ADD, why is that I can't figure out. being the daughter of an ADD person you would have thought I would not have married a man with it also, Ahh but it was hidden so well...and oh the romance was intoxicating.