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My ADHD husband and I recently agreed to use Melissa Orlov's card index system she presents in her book for dealing with chores. We have weekly meetings to discuss what needs to be done, then write out his chores on cards and place them by order of priority in the front of the box. All he has to do is open the box and take out the front card. 

Are your DH's doing anything about their ADD? Meds, therapy, reading about ADD or exercising? I've been there with some of the behavior's you are describing. I was more of the Shut-Down type than a Get Angry Mean type before diagnosis. The classic event around here was due to my oblivious powers of observation, so if there was something I "Should" have been noticing was bothering my DW or something that she had told me at some point she would like to get done, she would not nag me about it and pretty much just wait for me do notice the issue or start the project she asked me to do.

I have been married for 5 years and my husband is undiagnosed. I would really like to hear from some of you who have seen improvement or progress with your spouses ... I love my husband dearly and am committed to him forever. But I have been realizing lately that I no longer believe him when he says things like, "I am going to get fit." or "I am going to start practicing the guitar." etc etc. I feel like his goals are wonderful and he has great ideas but can't seem to make them stick longer than a week or so. I don't like the fact that I don't believe him anymore ... 

I'm sure I'm not the only one on this forum who feels ignored and invisible.  I'm so sick of pulling the weight in this marriage.  My husband would be just fine if we never had a serious talk about anything.  It seems to also be just fine with him to sit for hours on end not uttering a word to each other.  He stays in his own world with his laptop and the remote control.  Heaven forbid that I get aggravated with this scenario or the fact that he pays me little to no attention.  He is 50 years old and his ADD seems to be getting worse the older he gets.  Of course, he won't take medication f

Just the worst day, ever. I am so despondent and tired and alone that I think I may be becoming clinically depressed. If anyone out there has some words for me, I would appreciate it so much.

I'm new here! Glad to find this group! I'm a non ADHD spouse. Six years of marriage. All was great before the wedding. I started to think that something was wrong with him after our sexless honey moon. He was charming and loving but no sex desire. My first year of marriage  was difficult, (before marriage everything was good). I felt like I was more like his mom like his wife. We had almost the same struggles like you all here.  I was so frustrated and depressed.  I wanted to go for counseling, but he wasn't agree. Until one day that he open his heart and  told me that was not my fault.

DH is thinking we need a vacation to help us with our disagreements in the relationship,so we are headed to a 7 day vacation in the most romantic place in the Caribbean, and we are on our way this coming Wednesday,hopefully this might help us and hold some memories for us to hold on to.The mood swings and some of the anger disappears when he is next to the sea or ocean....so I know for sure we would have a wonderful time,but still I have to be careful,anytime he could change...

Keep me in your prayers and wish me good luck...

lovehurts.

This weekend, I spent several hours helping one of my adult daughters deal with a situation that required me to juggle lots of things in my head, weigh pros and cons, make decisions quickly, and act as though I wasn't stressed by the situation (which I was, very much so).  My husband wasn't here to help and even if he had been, he probably wouldn't have contributed much.

His boss is a very bad person to work for,the definition of (bad) means,I am very horrified by his personal lifestyle,a lifestyle we have been seeing for our own self and with our very own eyes.

His boos has a beautiful wife and is a very well established man with a high name in the business world, and also two beautiful kids.His boss lives 2 separate lifestyles, the good with wife and kids,

and the, 

I had been gone for three days at a workshop.  I phoned him I would be home at 6:30 pm. It is after 11pm now. I have been home for over three hours. He wasn't home when I got here but when he came home he went to the garage.  He is sitting in the garage "putzing" with I don't know what, without eating dinner. Not coming in the house.  I am always the one to initiate every conversation. I am the one to try to communicate. He just doesn't participate. I feel like a fool.  I feel hated.  I feel alone and lonely. I am frustrated.  I am going to bed.