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I'm new here! Glad to find this group! I'm a non ADHD spouse. Six years of marriage. All was great before the wedding. I started to think that something was wrong with him after our sexless honey moon. He was charming and loving but no sex desire. My first year of marriage  was difficult, (before marriage everything was good). I felt like I was more like his mom like his wife. We had almost the same struggles like you all here.  I was so frustrated and depressed.  I wanted to go for counseling, but he wasn't agree. Until one day that he open his heart and  told me that was not my fault.

DH is thinking we need a vacation to help us with our disagreements in the relationship,so we are headed to a 7 day vacation in the most romantic place in the Caribbean, and we are on our way this coming Wednesday,hopefully this might help us and hold some memories for us to hold on to.The mood swings and some of the anger disappears when he is next to the sea or ocean....so I know for sure we would have a wonderful time,but still I have to be careful,anytime he could change...

Keep me in your prayers and wish me good luck...

lovehurts.

This weekend, I spent several hours helping one of my adult daughters deal with a situation that required me to juggle lots of things in my head, weigh pros and cons, make decisions quickly, and act as though I wasn't stressed by the situation (which I was, very much so).  My husband wasn't here to help and even if he had been, he probably wouldn't have contributed much.

His boss is a very bad person to work for,the definition of (bad) means,I am very horrified by his personal lifestyle,a lifestyle we have been seeing for our own self and with our very own eyes.

His boos has a beautiful wife and is a very well established man with a high name in the business world, and also two beautiful kids.His boss lives 2 separate lifestyles, the good with wife and kids,

and the, 

I had been gone for three days at a workshop.  I phoned him I would be home at 6:30 pm. It is after 11pm now. I have been home for over three hours. He wasn't home when I got here but when he came home he went to the garage.  He is sitting in the garage "putzing" with I don't know what, without eating dinner. Not coming in the house.  I am always the one to initiate every conversation. I am the one to try to communicate. He just doesn't participate. I feel like a fool.  I feel hated.  I feel alone and lonely. I am frustrated.  I am going to bed.

My ADHD husband and I have had a particularly bad two years, but now we are at the point where he is in therapy and on ADD meds. He is becoming easier to live with and his depression and anger are somewhat regulated. These were my top requirements for staying together, and the progress came after I told him I was done. The last requirement was getting a job. He hasn't contributed income in the 8 years we've been married, and has "freelanced". He also never in the past was much help with the household stuff or the kids. He just spins his wheels and is very busy, but for no real purpose.

I have been married a long time. My husband has ADHD, I do not. He wants to be in control of everything from money to household. A project will be started and then dropped and then a new one will begin. I do not know how much more I can take. He wants to do everything himself with no help but nothing gets done! We have three cars that do not run because he is going to fix them. Of course it's been over a year with them just sitting there. We have an old house that needs fixing up and all the rooms have been started but thats it.

hi Everyone. I really love my partner.  I am really sad though. He has been on ADHD meds for a year but I am feeling like I still am getting the short end of the stick with the relationship.

I am not sure??? but I think that it is best that hubby and myself take a separation,things have been really tough with him ,and there is no improvement that is stable,it is a roller coater ride every 2 weeks,something new always keep popping up or the same old things.He has not filter for his mouth,he just blurts out whatever comes to mind and that is hurting me to the core.

I'm married to an undiagnosed ADHD. I lost all desire for him long ago. Probably after the 5th new car, quad or boat purchase. Has anyone else lost all desire for their ADHD spouse? He seems to not have the capacity to understand.