My spouse, who has ADHD, depression, and anxiety, seems to me to once again be floundering. It became clear to me on one of his rare days at home (he spends several days a week at his elderly parents' home) that his symptoms are interfering with his well-being and functioning: he is having problems sleeping, he doesn't get anything done when he's at home (I do all the chores), and his room is a mess.
I am happy to read your posts. All the posted it until now by women are married with ADDers, but this is a very important roll in women’s life, to be a MOTHER. My mother in Law it is not diagnosed, but I suspect she has ADD, She basically has the same basic discipline difficulties like my DH. She has difficulties of going to bed early, waking up, getting up early (after 11 am or later) etc.
A little background: My husband was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, but was never treated or medicated. He finally went to a counselor and got on Adderall earlier this week, but I am already at a breaking point. He took the Adderall for 3 days, said it was making him nervous and stopped taking it. He now got Concerta called into the pharmacy, but it requires pre-authorization through our insurance so he won't have it until next week some time. Over the course of our 8 year relationship, married for 5, he has been selfish, mean, verbally abusive, stayed out all night partying after our
I'm happy to say that my bf and I have had a wonderful week together. This doesn't sound like a huge feat, but trust me it is. We usually can't go more than two days without getting in an argument where hurtful things are said. We have been taking care of each other, snuggling, working together, and saying nice things to each other this whole week. It makes me feel very close to him and reminds me of why we are still together. I know we really love each other and both want to make things work. The test will be tonight. We are going out with my family and they are surprising me with s
I am analyzing and contemplating what to do,I am feeling like calling it quit's.I am realizing that he is not "just"ADHD,but also a train of disorder's!! I read and read online and books also, I have been doing researches and so far I have come up with this:
OMG, I don't know where to begin, but I will start like this,
Ok, so where do I start? My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have two children. He recently told me that he is "done and can't take it anymore". I asked him if he made up his mind and he said "yes". We went to see a counselor a few days later (I thought for us, but he later said it was to have someone give us direction on how to help our kids through this). The counselor spoke with us together for about an hour or so, then told me that she needed to get more history from him. I eventually "got the point" and left.
I am not sure about this one,I have not read about this so I am lost, but could someone please tell me if their ADHD spouse ever celebrates a Birthday,Anniversary,Christmas,New years etc,My husband has done that to me where he never celebrates an occasion,and now his ex child's mother just email me saying that he never sends the child Christmas cards,birthday cards "nothing"could anyone please tell me if they have experienced this and what is the cause???
Thank you!
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Who knows what goes on when I am not around by DH apartment,I let my self got caught up for one (whole) year running down the relationship b/c I did not know it was ADHD at the time.I wasted a lot of time,energy,mental and physical health,in not knowing the (truth) or the (underlying problem),I thought he was not (loved)by his parents the way he should be, or maybe (this too shall pass)how "typical"I really was blind to the disorder"thank god for the internet",Today I am in a much more better place after finding out it was not me
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