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Thank you so much for this site!

Another member posted about her ADHDer having a 'ZERO tolerance' for these..and it really struck me. We just had a 'fight' this weekend over the pain issue. He had a tooth pulled Friday and got a prescription for a narcotic pain reliever. (HUGE problem for me...he has a history of abusing pain meds). He took 3 of them within 10 hours (were prescribed every 6 hours) and I flushed them down the toilet. He was insistent that the ONLY reason he took them was because he tooth was hurting.

Hello everyone!

I've been meaning to catch up, but have been so busy and haven't been allowing myself to spend too much time doing anything that isn't related to earning any money, cooking, cleaning or dealing with kids.

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to let you know:  My husband DID get me the 3 CDs I was bugging him about!

You're a genius!

Yippeee!

I don't know what happened for this to escalate this way.  I am at home today on a day off and was cleaning.  My husband came home at lunch to grab a bite to eat and get back to work.  He chose this time to complain at me.  He opened the fridge door and seen two small containers of raspberries we had bought last sunday.  He started to accuse me of not eating them in time before they've gone bad and why the hell would I buy three containers of raspberries and only eat one and waste the other two.  

Today my kids had field day at their school.  At the crack of dawn, hours before they were to wake up I went out and got little accessories to go with their class t-shirts and hats to match.  Oh yeah and bought drinks for both of their classes.  When they woke up they were so happy with everything and obviously excited about the day.  

My husband, whom I suspect has ADHD, DESPISES having to drive long distances.  I mean even a one hour trip out of town.  Is this an ADHD symptom?  If I am the one driving, then it is fine for him because he can play on his ipad.  Another issue we had was a few occasions when he was driving in a different city where we didn't know where everything was, I had the map and was giving him directions.

I have been with my husband for 11 years, married 6.  We finally figured out what was wrong last summer.  He is struggling with his medication and feelings that he can overcome this on his own, his lack of self-esteem from being forced to be a stay at home dad since I earn a large income, and overall issues with feeling controlled by me having the only full access to the checking account.  Of course I do so out of necessity since it's been emptied on more occasions than I care to admit, but all of it has lead to a major meltdown in our marriage.  He is convinced he's better, but I feel like

OH!! his rope will burst soon,how long does he thinks that he could continue manipulating me for again,this time I have my back covered.

I hardened my heart sooo hard that I am feeling NOTHING right now!

absolutely nothing!!!!

this is what I have become,from :the loving kind hearted woman to the hard hearted bi**h.I hate being this way.What if the right man may come along one day,will I be able to love again and trust that person???? without badgering them in to finding out their status in life??