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Today I found out that my car is only missing the transmission oil for it to be ready for me,his friend from in his work came to my business place to wait for him this morning and told me that,Ha!!! I thought he told me last time that the car needed a next part in the transmission that he forgot to put in, and that he had to drop the box again and I may have to wait a next couple of weeks for it,And all this time the car is almost finished and he is procrastinating it,What the hell is he doing??? I am suffering for it !!!my hands hurts me with the grocery bags!!

Ok many of you here know we are almost 5 years post-diagnosis with a very happy solid marriage.  We definitely have ADD impacts, but patience on both our parts as well as regular work, meds for my ADD-I husband, and coaching have made our challenges no worse than any other couple trying to navigate life when one is from Mars and one is from Venus....at least my assumption is that our issues are roughly the same based on what my friends complain about in their husbands :)

 

Besides building communication progress with my DH, and on DH behalf trying to make progress,I still find him scanning the horizon to make us fight,he would come home by me on mornings before going to work to get his breakfast,(I run my business from home), and then leave with a good morning kiss and the days well wishes,but,before doing this he would scan the whole horizon by my work site to see what's undone, like the floor might need sweeping at the time or the yard or anything he could scan to build up an argument with me,to stimulate him,I read about this so it really don't bother me a

Finding this site and getting acquainted with ADD these last few months, has been cathartic for me.  I have been married for 35 years and have been working hard to "fix" something in myself not knowing what it was.  Blaming myself for being unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong, nuts.  I want to scream in frustration. But with this site I learn that I am not alone.  I am not unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong or nuts.  And this site gives me a place to go with my fears, anger and frustration.  It gives us a mirror to see ourselves in other people's stories.

My husband was just diagnosed with ADHD but has not yet started meds. We've been together four years, married not quite a year. In the beginning of our relationship he was helpful (to a degree). For his birthday I bought him a motorcycle. Now all he does is work on that. He completely blows me off and every time I mention his lack of attention (which was a problem before) he says I'm jealous of the bike. We are currently doing a lil mini home project-stripping and restaining all the baseboards and doors of our house-and by we I mean me.

He is making some sort of progress,all the while I was thinking divorce,now I am thinking support on his behalf ,and I have been considering his disorder to heart, that I feel the need to stay and work this through with him,but,it get's so tough sometimes that I don't even know if it would work.I am trying with him and he has been trying with himself,I could see where he is building a little empathy for me and a bit more "sensitive" to my feelings.He still have sooo much work on his behalf,taking into consideration he is also very "depressed" and full of hatred from his overdue past resentm

My husband who was diagnosed but is in denial is threatening me that he will sue me if I tell people in his job field that he has ADHD, for harming his reputation after we get divorced. Basically i cannot even vent to anyone that i know about why we ended up with divorce, when i am suffering to death with the harm from his illness? I really feel like dying. 

 

 

What the hell is up with mornings? Am I just a crazy person or is this an ADHD thing? My husband is useless in the morning. Absolutely useless. We are good most of the rest of the day... but mornings are awful. We have a two year old that needs to get ready in the morning and needs to be dressed, fed, and attended to. We have a cat that is annoying as hell until she gets fed. And I swear to God, I am the only one who ever gets up. He just lays there. And if I am sick and can't get up (like this weekend) God forbid our daughter wakes up before he is ready.

The bizarre thing is, I'd say, there is a certain feeling of stupidity from not seeing this one coming.

The basic backstory is I'm supposed to be meeting my college age daughter out of town next week to discuss the financial situation of her upcoming semester. The trip was discussed weeks in advance. Unfortunately, we are in a precarious financial situation due due to my husband's spending issues. The most recent issue has been gambling, previously was shopping, credit cards, you name it, it's happened.