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What the hell is up with mornings? Am I just a crazy person or is this an ADHD thing? My husband is useless in the morning. Absolutely useless. We are good most of the rest of the day... but mornings are awful. We have a two year old that needs to get ready in the morning and needs to be dressed, fed, and attended to. We have a cat that is annoying as hell until she gets fed. And I swear to God, I am the only one who ever gets up. He just lays there. And if I am sick and can't get up (like this weekend) God forbid our daughter wakes up before he is ready.

The bizarre thing is, I'd say, there is a certain feeling of stupidity from not seeing this one coming.

The basic backstory is I'm supposed to be meeting my college age daughter out of town next week to discuss the financial situation of her upcoming semester. The trip was discussed weeks in advance. Unfortunately, we are in a precarious financial situation due due to my husband's spending issues. The most recent issue has been gambling, previously was shopping, credit cards, you name it, it's happened.

He does this often.  He is in the garage along the driveway.  I drive in. He stands with his back to me - not acknowledging that I have come home.   Not saying hello and I KNOW he knows I am there.  Like at night when the lights are shining on his back or when I am right next to him with the car running.  What is that about? Is this ADHD related or is he just acting like a jerk?

So... I'm 40 and I've been married to my ADD husband for 15 years and I have lost count of all the jobs he has had, usually for somewhere between 6 months and 3 years.  I'm finally coming to the realization that I'm looking at a lifetime of him changing jobs (with seasons of unemployment which are super tough), no retirement, no college savings for our kids, no financial management (unless I do it alone and I'm not great at it and I do dislike it) and never seeing him happy vocationally.  Anyone out there have some good coping skills for this life I'm facing?

1.  If I need some "man job" done, I lay all the equipment out and take my time to get to the job (an hour or even a day sometimes).  If he hasn't already asked if he can do it, I wait until he is around and then begin the job.  He CANNOT let me do a job without either telling me how or saying, "Shall I do that?"  If he begins to tell me how to do the job, I say, "Would you like to do it so it is done right?"

I started dating with my ADHD partner 1.5 years ago and got engaged last year. (He gets treatment and is on medication)

I am originally from japan and met him while i was working in australia (2006-2011). we`ve been friend for 4 years before started dating.

I knew from the start that he has ADHD. sure had to deal with a little bit of his mood swings,depression,easy to forget some arrangement etc.. but everything was so perfect. this guy is the most good thing ever happened in my life.

Wow, this is a new thing for me and I am really taking a risk.  I am married to a man who has ADHD.  He chooses not to seek medical management.  

We have a young daughter and have been married 5 years.  We met and married a year and a half after knowing each other.  Knowing what I know now, I married him during the hyper-focus stage.  I thought, stupidly, that I was really just that great!  That he loved me, not loved being in love and the "thrill of the chase." 

Hello, before you get confused, we are lesbians.

Ok- My wife was diagnosed as an adult, before we met. We have been married for 7 months and have a 6 year old daughter. I'm going to list some things going on, and if anyone can help me identify if the examples are ADHD, or just her personal issues, I would greatly appreciate it. Every day I feel more increasingly like I am grasping onto tiny threads and losing more and more of her, and in turn losing part of me with it.