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I'm recently married to my wonderful husband Vincent and I love him more than anything and although we've been together for over a year now I'm just now beginning to realize how much his ADHD affects our relationship. Even though we are both aware that he has ADHD and I try so hard to understand what he's thinking It's still hard for me to try and communicate my feels to him without making it seem like I'm attacking him.

Not sure what category this belongs in, but this forum has a "positive" title, so I'll go with it.  I'm declaring today "Be Authentic Day".  This is a one-time free pass to be your best authentic self.  Not the perfect self your mother, your teachers, your spouse or your friends "expect" you should be.  But the real, fabulous, unique best self you know you are somewhere inside.  Feel like a parent most of the time and hate it?  Today you are free instead to be your authentic self, and not a parent.  Hope you enjoy it!  Feel like you're treated like a child who can't be trusted to take of yo

WOW!  My wife and I are 40 pages into The ADHD Effect and I am astounded.  Unfortunately I am also nearly out-of-time to save our marriage (and to spare our 10 year old boy and 12 year old girl the tragedy of divorce and its effects on children).  We also have (2) older 20-something boys from her previous marriage that her and I raised together since marrying in 1998.  

Ok, I wasn't sure exactly where to put this so here it is and I need to vent...like NOW!!

Sometimes in a marriage, you have to talk to your partner about "serious" topics.  Decisions must be made, options considered, or progress evaluated on things like finances, family schedules, or putting the relationship on the "front burner" now and then.  My guy has told me, though, that his biggest fear in starting these "serious" conversations is that they "will never end." He said while we talk he keeps wondering "Is this almost over?"  Kinda like I feel in the dentist chair?   This astonished me, because we are not a couple who spends a whole evening, or even an hour either talk

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If you ask me, I'd tell you that going out of town on vacation is our 2nd biggest obstacle.  And we're about to go on an almost 1000 mile road trip!  To say I'm nervous or have anxiety about this trip would most definitely be an understatement.  So far, no matter how I've tried to make leaving town easier (for both of us), I still end up with the same amounts of frustration and resentment.  When DH is around his family (especially his dad and brother) we cease to exist for the most part.  He is no help with the kids, and it's near impossible to get his attention.  This road trip he's decide

A few months ago, my wife decided that I have ADHD. After some reading on the subject, I've come to agree. It seems to explain a lot of the last 20 years we've been together. I'm still having a hard time figuring out what's "me-me" and what's "ADHD-me," and hoping I can get things under control better than I have in the past.

Hi to everyone...I am new to this site. A few months ago I began a blog on blogspot called waiting for the breakthrough (I don't think even 1 person has gone to it yet!) to help me deal with what I thought was my H's workaholism. We've been together 20 yrs and It's been up and down. H is a decent guy in that he is not abusive or mean. In fact, he can be too nice - saying yes when he means no, making promises he does not keep, etc. He promises the world and then forgets about it.

So, not quite sure how to start this, or what I want to ask or say, but maybe it will just materialize out of my thoughts... I am the non, DH is clearly trying. There are so many things that are happening that you would think would help, but then something happens and I go two steps back. I have made it abundantly clear that there are certain behaviors that will set us back, and DH has made huge strides in this area. I do appreciate it, and have even gone so far to say if you do this behavior, I don't want to know about it and if you do DECIDE to do it, then don't come near me.