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OK Been a long time stalker of this life saving forum. Such wonderful advice and support is shared. Reading through has talked me off the ledge many nights, but I will sadly say that I am in dire straits with my undiagnosed ADD husband. Although I have given him some self-awareness (along with numerous online tests which he will take and be categorized as "highly likely" for ADD....LOL) his refusal to go for help and possibly get on meds has hit a breaking point in our marriage.

Hey everybody,

I am having a problem managing, understanding and dealing with my ADHD husband's financial escapades. When he needs to go on a vacation, he has to go no mater what our financial state is. He is an impulsive spender and needs immediate gratification. If he needs an IPAD then he needs one now!! Trying to keep within a budget and delaying purchases and vacations seem particularly hard for him. Any suggestions?

It is so lonely to be the non ADD spouse because anything you share about your life never seems to be remembered. I don't even know how this can be a relationship. Although there is a lot of compassion for what I am going through at the moment, I feel once that moment is gone , it is also gone from him.  I  just feel like I don't want to share anymore if it disappears from his mind so soon.  We are human beings that have a past,present and dreams of the future and I just don't understand that an ADD person only lives in the moment.

I see ADD everywhere now because I know what it looks like.  It's like buying a car and then you see it everywhere you go.

One of my favorite movies is It's a Wonderful Life.  Uncle Billy had ADD.  He was the straw that broke the camel's back and sent George over the edge because he lost the $5000 and couldn't remember where he'd left it.  He was always tying ribbons on his fingers so he wouldn't forget things. 

to deserve this? I work hard. Pay the bills on time. Keep the house up and clean. Do the yard work, he does pay for someone to mow the yard. He is taken care of and I don't say  much about him helping. It's just easier to do it with out all the BS involved in getting him to help. You have to praise him when he does ANYTHING. He work also, it is all that is on his mind any more. The garage, the garage, the garage. It's a money pit. If we had to depend on it for all our income we would be broke!

Hi all,

I've got a really awful cold, I didn't sleep all night (up til 4am, then my 2 year old woke up with a fever at 6am)  I'm exhausted.

Do I skip Adderall in favor of cold medicine (sudafed) or vice versa?

I'm interviewing a babysitter today, I've got to move my car (with my 2 year old) for street sweeping and then pick up my daughter from school, but no 'real' work today.

gotta get my daughter ready for school and have coffee now....

Thoughts?

thanks!

ellamenno

About 3 years ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD.  It was great to learn that I'm not crazy, I'm just crazy ;-)

Hello all,

Though i know this is a very subjective question, but all those couples who have had a happy relationship, what are the qualities you think would work well with someone with typical ADHD characteristics. I am going for an arrange marriage & was curious what qualities would come at the top of your head - is "Opposites Attract" especially true in case of one spouse having ADHD? or does the ADHD spouse feels things might get dull and looks for someone more like themselves.

I am wondering if anyone out there is in a similar situation like mine. I live 3000 miles away from my closest relatives. I am in the same city as my spouse's family, I'm in the same area where my spouse grew up and went to college. So, almost every person i know is through my spouse. I did meet quite a few people where I worked but after I had children i lost track of many of them because I was able to stay home with my children. Suffice it to say, Just about every person i know is through my spouse. So, here is my current delima.