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This is about anger and communications.

I am an ADDer married to a non.  Just read your book ADHD effect on Marriage.  Very good information from the ADHD side.  Most of the information my wife sends me is all about the ADHD person and very little about the non.  This was a great two sided discussion.

Hi Everyone,

I've been away and wanted to post about my positive experience.

I spent two weeks with my family at my father in law's house.  My husband and his siblings wanted to have a weekend celebration for their father, who turned 80.  My husband and I decided to make a vacation out of it and get there a couple weeks before the event so that the kids would have time with their grandfather.

I found this site after asking my husband what he was reading on his phone, he wouldnt tell me so I looked myself, and found that he was reading an article from here about being married to someone with ADHD.. I was diagnosed with it when I was a child, but I also had a very hard home life with an alcoholic mother and acreditted alot of my childhood abnormalities to that. I made horrible grades in most subjects and then would have the highest grade in the class in others, my parents just thought I was lazy and only cares about what interested me.

I found this quote today and thought I would share.  Everyone have a great day!!

"You don't have to understand someone to love them, but you have to love someone to understand them"

Sorry, that's the title of a song I like.   But that's my question.  How do you deal with lonely?  We both work long hours but when are home, we aren't home together.  He'd rather send me an email from his computer (downstairs) to me at my computer (upstairs) than talk to me in person.  I suggest sharing a glass of wine and 15 minutes of conversation.  He says sure, and wanders away with his glass after 5 minutes.  I prepare dinner and he turns on the television while we're eating.  I suggest a project to work together on, and he agrees, disappearing to "get something" and never comes back.

I have been married for a year, to a man I have been dating for about 7.5 years, and yes I did notice some things before we were marriage. But since the marriage they have become more noticeable. During our dating years, unless we went on vacation our visits were normally 1-3 times per week. We did not always stay over night or spend the full day, but their was always a question in my head... Why do you have to do that, and why now? I noticed how impulsive he was but when I questioned the why's he would always say, I just gotta do it now.

My husband of 11 yrs was recently diagnosed with "severe ADD".  He got the diagnosis after our son was diagnosed.  The diagnosis came in the midst of martial problems...I found out months earlier that my husband was having an affair with a so called good friend of mine(to my knowledge it is still ongoing).  Knowing he has ADD explains alot of his behaviors, but does not excuse them.  I have been very willing to work on our marriage, but after a year he still has not admitted that the affair was wrong. He has refused to move out. He shows no remorse nor regret.  He still blames me for the af

Hello, everybody!

 Long story short: I finally had enough and made extensive plans to break up with and kick out my beloved boyfriend, eta in one week. 

Last night he comes home, ON TIME, takes me out to dinner [ never happens! ] and tells me he is juuuust at the top of the hump with crazy work schedule, and later leaves me a note saying how close he is and lists the things he wants us to do together. 

First off, I'm just so happy to have found this forum- until yesterday i thought i was the only wife to have a husband who isn't interested in sex-

I am my husbands third wife and he's only 32- his first wife told him to stop taking his meds and he listened- I didn't even know what adhd was until yesterday- Like so many people here I feel like a roommate/parent  in this relationship My husband and I have sex maybe once every two months-

I'm glad that I have found this site. I am marred to a man,even though he has not been diagnosed ADHA, he is. We have been married 8 months and it has been a steady down hill race since we said I do. He made me feel like I was his whole world when we were dating. Listen to me, wanted to be with me, hold me, touch me, helped here a the house when I had to work late. Was here for me when I had a nervous breakdown. So supportive, sweet, funny, never a mean word. OH how I loved him and was sure of his love