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I am part-way through reading Melissa's book The ADHD effect on marriage - it is very good and just just bought my husband and his (|Dutch) counsellor a copy each. Are there any plans for it to be translated into Dutch?

However on page 192 about boundaries -   she talks about "BS" monitors, it's lost me completely - anyone know what this refers to?

Thanks alot,

Anne

DH did not take his meds yesterday. He's out of his Concerta and he didn't take his anti-depressant either. He pooped out in the middle of a project, leaving an even bigger mess, complained of headaches and not feeling well, laid down for an hour at 5 pm, moaned and kicked me all night, had bad dreams, and wouldn't go to church this morning (and he's in the choir!). Needless to say, I'm not too fond of him right now.

I can't find a non-ADHD partner/spouse group in the SF Bay Area. Where are they?

So frustrated with my counselor right now...thinking it really isn't gonna work out and that I need to find another one, AGAIN!!!  OMG, yesterday was my second appointment and it didn't go well.  I was very upfront with him during the first appointment that I was NOT looking for a divorce and that I wanted to work on my reactions to my husband and strategies to deal with his ADHD.  And once again the counselor (number 3) is only concerned with what my "exit" plan is.....I DON"T WANT AN EXIT PLAN!  He feels that because my husband will not come to counseling with me and that the issues have

My husband of 6 years has adhd, and has barely worked since we got married.

Hello everybody,

 First off, THANK YOU for existing. I'm so grateful to have found this site! 

I am a 37 year old married male with no children.  I was diagnosed with bipolar type II two years ago and with inattentive type ADHD four months ago.  A psychiatrist diagnosed me with the BPII, and an LPCC who specializes in diagnostic testing diagnosed the ADHD (she calls it attention superior disorder, though I am not sure what that is).  The LPCC does not believe that I have BP; my psychiatrist, after reading the LPCC’s assessment, thinks that I have both conditions; and my own individual therapist believes I have BP, but that I am in denial about its impact on me, and that, if I do have

I'm relatively new here, hope I'm positing this in the right place. 

"God, grant me the knowledge of a way that will work for me, the humility to work it and the power to follow it through"

A simple (or at least trying to be) ADHD-partner (using meds, working with an ADHD coach and working "a way that works for me").

(inspired by the Serenity Prayer, 12-Step recovery's 11th Step and my own search for a way that works for me)

I've read the majority of the book, but it looks like the bookmark is on page 165 and step 4 communication.  ADD has kept me from finishing the book, even though I'm in a very serious situation.  My wife's last blow up got my attention enough to try something, so I Googled and found a pretty good book.  Notice how I say "pretty good" as I'm pretty much incapable of saying anything is "great."  This goes to an entire 18 year marriage and 21 year relationship.  I will admit I found the book quite humorous as it described my married life very well.