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I've been with my husband for 16 years. He was diagnosed about 10 years ago with varying amounts of counseling and medications over the years. It's been a roller coaster of ups and downs. We have 2 kids which has added to the stress and responsibilities that have to be navigated. I get very hurt and angry when something happens or doesn't happen that is related to his ADHD. For a long time I didn't say much and just thought it was my job to be a good wife and be understanding.

Hello everyone,

I have been reading on this site on and off for about a year or so now.  I have never been one to post on any forums but now I am in desperate need of help and some kind of encouragement from people who are experienced.  I did recently purchase Melissa's book and have also gotten Dr. Hallowell's book, Driven from Distraction though I'm not done reading either yet.

To Stay or To Leave, this is my question.  I have separated from my husband of 9 years for a month. I have been suspecting he has ADHD.  Two therapists he saw commented about it, but no formal diagnosis was done.  I was badly hurt (emotionally) by his sudden erupted anger.  He kicked me out of the car several times on the freeway.

What questions are helpful in finding a couples therapist who really understands the dynamics of ADHD in a marriage? I wish more therapists/LCSW had websites sharing their philosophy. How do they effectively balance what works for both partners? The last one we went to let sessions just go on without any suggestions on how to communicate better and there wasn't any follow up at the next session if we ran out of time.

i am in a 6 month relationship with a man whom i love very much. he was up front early on about his adhd and he also takes medication. the first few months of our relationship were stunning; the emotional capacity he awoke in me was out of this world, the emotional/physical bond one of the most beautiful i've ever experienced. i feel deeply in love with him.

I just joined the forum, and I posted this on a thread, but I think I was supposed to start a new topic?  So forgive me for repeating (under "Anger")  I've been reading these posts, they've been helpful, and I need some perspective.  I've been married to my ADHD husband for 2 years.  He is kind and loving, and we had a strong relationship, emotionally and physically, though we were struggling with typical issues of trying to avoid a parent/child dynamic. He was diagnosed as an adult about 5 years ago (he's 41) and takes medication.   But there were some very hard issues with money.

Hello,

To: admin@adhdmarriage.com
I have a marketing company and tonight, my husband with adult ADHD would NOT leave me alone! I went online where I discovered only your blog for advice to married couples dealing with this issue.

Though he has not been diagnosed with ADHD I feel pretty confident my husband suffers from it. He has never been able to reach his goals, feel self confident, hold a job, maintain relationships, or in general, have any kind of focus on anything other than himself.  I gave him a couple books to read, hoping he would come to the conclusion that he has ADHD and get some help.  Not holding my breathe, but I am hoping he has some sort of an epiphany. 

*sigh*