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Hi everyone, I've been a lurker here for months, and I guess it's time for me to post and share my story.

I'm a 34 year old gay man in a relationship with my partner of 8 years who was diagnosed with ADHD a couple of years ago.   For a long while I didn't believe in ADHD, just thought really, everyone has ADHD symptoms, it's a matter of controlling it.  I didn't truly believe in it until about a year ago.

Hello,

While most of what I have seen here is negativity, judgment and generalizations which make ADHDers look infantile, inept, insensitive, abusive and generally a fearful burden to their spouses, I feel that portrays an unrealistic and lopsided view and serves to dishearten both ADHDer and "normal" alike. I know there are others here who are engaged  in the lifelong process of navigating the challenges of ADHD and have had both small and great successes. I propose this topic as a way to celebrate your success and provide hope to both your fellow ADHDs and partners as well.

Cheetarah: You asked me if it is hopeless. Nothing is hopeless if you are willing to do everything in your power to understand and treat your ADD or ADHD. There are many counselors available who are trained to work with you, seek them out.  Your life lies in your hands - no one else is responsible for your happiness. If you truly want to have successful relationships you WILL find a way. The first step is acknowledging that you have this affliction (which you already have)and then be patient with yourself because you didn't get this way over night.

After 20 years of marriage, I'm not sure we're going to make it.  My ADD spouse (I wish he had the "H", then maybe something would get done!) has been my 3rd child for too long.  I don't want to do this to my kids but I'm just not sure that I can survive.  I am so sad.  We've been in counseling, supposedly with the best.  It just costs sooo much, takes sooo long and rarely gets to the heart of the matter.  There are very few options for real support.  I've read books, read blogs, gone to groups.  He does little of it.  He's medicated, at my urging, which only seems to help him hyperfocus

I asked my husband to get something out of my car Friday (because I'd just got back from having surgery). Now I find out he's lost my car key. He swears he put it back in my purse and he didn't (because it's not there and I haven't touched my purse since). He refused to spend any time looking for it, spending the evening watching old TV shows on Hulu while I did housework. I start work next week. We discussed getting a new one from the dealership but there's no dealer for my make in our town, and I can't get to the dealer in the next county without a car.

My husband was diagnosed with adhd in 2008, my daughter was recently diagnosed as having adhd as well. Last month she said she also has oppositional defiant disorder(ODD), and that this is probably being more damaging to her life than adhd itself. She prescribed SERTRALINE to treat it. But my husband´s doctor told me ODD is not usually treated with medicines. I read about this medicine and felt scared. I don´t know what to do. Please help! Is this prescription right? Is this medicine the right treatment for Odd? 

I've been dating my ADD ex-husband. I thought he'd changed, and I've been very impressed at the way he's gotten his life together.  This week we went together to a 3-day workshop...being with him around other people all day for three days, I was reminded of a few of the things I didn't like about him. I felt that he was obnoxious...he repeatedly made very disparaging remarks about a certain political party (completely out of context of the conversation...just thrown in as an insult to that political party).

My husband and I are both likely add, as one psychologist and one psychiatrist have suggested we probably are, but have never been formally diagnosed.  We have 2 boys, one just turned 8, the other is 2.  The 8 year old is adhd.  My husband has always been frequently angry.  His favorite shirt (which I got him) says "I'd rather be complaining."  He is convinced that he knows best about a great many things, and this attitude often seems to be the source of his anger and frustration with life in general.  In the nearly 14 years that we've been together, I doubt a day has gone by without at l

So I am the ADHEer and I thought I was doing right by focusing on our marriage but I guess I was hyper focusing, Now I feel like I have just taken a big leap back, among other things I still don't know how to please my wife, I feel like I have to walk on egg shells around her I am so scared of losing her it is driving me nuts. Yes on meds Yes seeing a therapist, but marriage is still a question of I DON'T KNOW, I am so afraid the she might be having other intentions. any non-adhd spouse have any advice how to comfort and give relief to my wife.