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I am a SAHM so I do the most of the "spending" in our household.  What I mean by that is that I buy the groceries, school supplies, kids clothes, etc.  Anything we need, I make it happen, which means I do the spending. 

Greetings all –

1. I am a stay at home mom to our two kids and have no means of providing for ourselves at the moment.

2. It feels wrong to leave my DH who is "broken."

Does that make sense?

#1 scares the daylights out of me.  If I choose to leave, I do have a place to go (live with friends) but I can't be a freeloader forever.  I would have to get recertified in my field in order to go back to work and I don't know how much time or money that might take.  I've been a stay at home mom for 7 years and stupidly let my certification lapse.

My husband came home from work and I went to run an errand in his car. (Both our names are on it, but he usually drives it.) When I got home I asked him "So how long has your windshield been broken and how come you didn't tell me?" He did not believe me that his windshield was broken and had to go out and look at it. He has no idea how long it's been broken. This is a man who drives hundreds of mile s a week. I was last in the car Saturday and it wasn't broken then.

I just found this site and I have read several post from the spouses of men with ADD. My wife is also one of the very frustrated and I am afraid ready to give up. For those of you that do not have or understand what an ADD person goes through on a daily basis, I envy you. You are the normal ones, you keep your focus, you finish what you start, and most of all you don't hurt the people you love the most. I, on the other hand, do get distracted, cannot finish anything I start to save my life.

Hello,

I have become familiar with the main authorities/authors in the area of adult ADD after I was diagnosed a couple of years ago.  But who and what are the best resources for parenting an ADD child?  My son is 13 and was diagnosed at age 10 (that's how I discovered I have it too).  I am interested in finding some resources that help to teach life skills for his future as an adult and not just tips for getting him through school or etc.  I want to know how to best prepare him for LIFE?

I have been married for 18 years.  Most of our marriage we had no idea that I have ADD.  I "self-diagnosed" about a year after our son was diagnosed in 4th grade (now in 7th).  I have all the classic symptoms except thankfully I seem to have been spared the addictions (although I think I have addictive tendencies), my impulsivity is fairly low (I think!?),  and I do not generally do the dangerous stuff like thrill-seeking or reckless driving, etc.

I have trouble reading through entire articles so I always look for video lectures if I can. I have been chasing info re emotional regulation and physical brain structure and I found this you tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTItzKrNX68. There is a second part and he is entertaining. if you or your spouse have intense emotions, you may want to pay attention to what he is saying about "amygdala hijack"  It affects the guess what... prefrontal cortex. Sound familiar?

My husband has adhd.  Our relationship has always been difficult, but after the birth of our first child, I just couldnt take it anymore and when my son was 6 month old I left him.  In the beginning of our relationship he was the most amazing person I ever met.  He was so kind, considerate, generous and I couldnt believe how much he loved me and I fell in love with him, although he never believed that I ever loved him.  Everything progressed really quick in our relationship, he was desperate to get me moved in and married, so we married after 18 months.  Thinking back now, I could probabl