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Hi-  It's been a while since I've been here, but I find myself coming back over and over again as this is the only place where I feel like there are others like me who are struggling and clinging and smiling and trying to hang on during the CRAZY ride of long-term marriage to an unrepentant (albeit medicated) ADD spouse.   My husband has "blown up" 8  jobs in the last 12 years (quitting because of some perceived injustice or being unappreciated in his mind), and finally, after a hiatus after bailing on the last one 2 years ago, got a part-time job at a local school.  It was kind of his dr

My husband is inert. I feel like I'm married to a potted plant. When he comes home, he's "tired." He used to like to cook, now it's "I'm too tired, will you cook dinner?", which of course, I don't mind since I'm not working. Then we curl up in bed to watch TV (bedroom is the only room we can afford to heat), I knit or cross-stitch and he falls asleep. He says there's nothing wrong but it's driving me nuts. I thought they were supposed to by HYPERactive, not HYPOactive! Does anyone have any ideas?

I was diagnosed with ADD as a child they told me when I turned 15 that I had to learn how to deal with it and I thought I did.  I have been married now for 8 years and I thought everything was great sure me and my wife had are problems but it was not till I deployed were I am currently at that I found out she was thinking about divorce because she could not take the way I have been acting.  I look back at the things I have done ie being distracted when she was trying to have a real conversation, not being involved in what she is into, Always thinking about what I wanted to do, irratating

Hello,

I just found this website today, and boy am I ever glad I did. I have been reading through some posts about frustrated ADHD spouses, and I find that my situation isn't so different from any of yours.

My husband and I have been together for 3 years, married nearly 1. He told me that he had ADHD when we first began dating, but I didn't feel like it would have a big impact on our relationship. I know now that I was wrong.

While I can't say I have "enjoyed" reading everyone's stories here, it is good to know I'm not the only one.

I am married to someone that is a living, breathing, trainwreck. He has ADHD and more recently we found out he also seems to have a personality disorder. We are stuck in the same cycle. Things are bad, he gets help, takes his meds, best husband ever! Things get good he refuses to take his meds everyday, he knows better than anyone else, he can do no wrong at work because everyone is his BFF and would NEVER fire him (gosh no!), he's a tax expert, a doctor, and even if you tell him you've been there /done that and he hasn't, he STILL knows better than you.

I'm not sure if I should be posting here because a.  I'm diagnosed with dyspraxia and 'attention disorder', not adhd and

                                                                             b. I'm not married.

My Dh and I met tonight and I was under the impression that we were working on a plan to get our marriage back on track, offer up what we each need to work on and let each other know what we need and that we can work towards happiness together. I was so hopeful that this was going to be the point where we would stop spiraling out of control and get back on track - like we were starting to in late last Nov 2010. Well, I was duped. 

I need to talk to an expert, but I don’t know who.

Here’s the situation: I am the non-ADHD spouse of an ADHD husband. He was diagnosed about 18 months ago and has been taking medication – with some improvements. We have many issues -- too many to go into here – that I can attribute to his ADHD.

Ok...Two things.