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"I can't get my partner to listen to me and understand things from my point of view."
"If my partner only understood things through my eyes, he or she would then change and do things my way."

Exactly how I feel - though I know it's not true in reality that someone will change if they realize your point of view on certain things.

Dear Forum Folks,

Hi. This is my first post. I've tried looking for local support groups for ADHD, but have not found anything, and the closest I can locate is AL ANON. My hope to gain knowledge from learning your experiences, individual tics, and so forth in order to better my own life.

I am recently married, about four weeks ago, and my wife and I are having problems.  She feels I am not considerate enough.

Hi I need help and ideas how to grocery shop. I am newly married and moved to a different part of town and am very unfamiliar with the new surroundings. When I try to go to the grocery store I get extremely overwhelmed and end up getting just a few things and leaving. I never finish shopping, there are too many choices and too many flavors etc. of stuff that i can't decide and just never try anything new. I have tried to explain to my husband that I would love it if he could come with me, but he doesn't understand why this task is sooo difficult for me.

New here, after a minor argument I became defensive and left her apartment. my girlfriend of three years would not return my texts pr phone calls. Finally she texted me back and said she needs more time. We both have ADHD. I tried to make amends during phone message by taking responsibility for my actions. I'm going crazy trying to figure out what she means by this. I know none of you are in her head but maybe someone has been there. Any help would be appreciated. it has been about 12 days now. Fyi I'm 42 and she is 40....

So here I’m again… with so much anger and pain inside… trying to find answers and help. At least I’m being good at not saying things at the moment, I’m trying to stay calmed and think a lot.

I have been reading this forum, as well as books until my eyeballs literally spin!  Here's the nutshell history:

Approximately 2 or 3 weeks ago my mother, sister and I were talking in the living room about how nice it would be to have Thanksgiving dinner at mine and my (ADHD)partners new house. He was listening from the office, being antisocial of course, and confronted me about it after they left.

I've read many forums on here and so many questions of why the non ADHD person has to change their lives to be happy in a marriage that clearly only one person is responsible for working or not working, so it seems to me!  I've worked on me and doing things for me and all he does is take that opportunity while I try to live a life that makes me happy doing things I would do being the social person I am.  Do you know what I get out of it?  I get even more lonely!  If I start going and doing things I want to do he doesn't mind because he would get to spend countless hours in the garage doin

I'm the wife and I'm the one with ADHD. I was officially diagnosed two weeks ago and am on day two with meds and I can definitely feel a big difference. So that's great. I hope it continues to be that way. But. It might just be too late. It's just so cruel and unfair to everyone involved. I am willing to do anything to fix things. Anything. Which of course my husband has heard many times before and so naturally even though he knows this time actually is different, he is highly skeptical and fearful. He has simply shut me out on an emotional level.