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Hello everyone. I am a mom of 2 boys with ADHD. I also struggle with attention issues of my own. I have really had a hard time with consistency and organization - which I know makes things even more difficult for my sons. They need me to be consistent. I just started using an online family management tool called ADHD Nanny. You can do a search for ADHD Nanny and find it online. Has anyone used this program yet? We just started about a month ago and it has really helped me with the day to day schedule and my kids love it.

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I've been skimming over the threads.  noticed that most assist the non-ADDer spouse with their anger issues and "dealing" with us ADDers.

Do you have any suggestions on how us ADDers can deal with the anger and resentment that we have after years of not receiving the support we truly needed from our significant others?

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ok im going to try this. after reading some of your letters, I would like to say something from the other side of the coin. im not even sure im in the right place, ive never been diagnosed with adhd, but alot of what im reading sounds just like me.

I've posted about the problems my husband's ADD has caused me. Regular readers are probably sick of me....

I found this site through a New York Times article on marriages and ADHD.  I browsed through the forums and saw many of the experiences and anxieties I have experienced over the years.  I thought that I'd share a little of my story.

My husband has ADHD, and it is affecting our marriage greatly.  I am also almost 9 months pregnant and I must say that this pregnancy has been an emotional roller coaster.  I feel so lost right now and I need all the help and advice I can get. 

Hi fellow non-ADHDers, I'm in a long term relationship with someone who is ADHD. We live together and considering marriage, but our relationship has similar problems to the ones I've been reading about on here: his irresponsibility with money and bills, being so consumed with his band that he forgets to do chores (or he's too busy to do his chores every day which results in bugs). I'm a teacher studying to be a counselor so I know about the strengths and weaknesses of an ADHD person, but my patience is starting to fade and I'm tired, depressed, and downright hateful sometimes to him.

I am six months out of a 10 year marriage, and a nearly 12 year relationship, with someone with ADD.  A huge part of my healing has been sorting out what had become of those two eager people who so loved each other 12 years ago. How did they end up living as they did?

OK, I'm new here and haven't read every single post, but the recurrent theme seems to be that the non ADHD spouse is supposed to let go of the anger. Sounds noble and all that, but how? Oh, I can try to be less critical and sarcastic and bitchy, at least some of the time, but I feel depressed and overwhelmed by how hard it is to accomplish the simplest thing in my family. (I have a card-carrying ADHD husband and child, and another child who is probably disorganized enough to qualify.) And when my veneer of patience cracks, there's real fury just under the surface.

OK, like so many other people I've read my fair share of books, blogs, forums and discussions and what I don't often come across is places where people present an issue or challenge or situation and others suggest real specific strategies to handle, adapt to or overcome the issue.  I'd like this topic to do that.  Let's have people present a situation that has happened or a behavior that they exhibit and  lets have others share some specific strategies or techniques that could create a different, more desirable outcome...sound good?

Here's my first one...