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This is my first post.  Hubs 51 (untreated ADHD but does acknowledge it, mostly jokingly) and I (50) have been married for 11 years, my second marriage (w/ kids), his first.  I've read a lot on this blog and it's helped me to understand so much about how our brains are wired differently and that we don't each act the way we do to drive the other one bonkers.  

My first relationship was ended 2 weeks ago. It was a long distance relationship with my ex girlfriend and we dated for 8 months. I'm 20 from New York and she's 24 from Ottawa (400 miles) about a 6.5-7 hour card ride. We met in person at a discord friend group meet up and we hit it off after a few months of flirting before. I then flew up to visit her for a week in February, and then for 2 weeks in late June/early July. We called every night and watched tv shows together for hours.

I figured out that my hubby has ADHD about three months ago.  We're in our early 40s and have been married almost 19 years.  While he was initially very resistant to the idea and he still adamantly refuses to get a diagnosis or utilize any type of treatment, I keep sharing info I'm learning... and reels.  Oh my gosh!  Reels have been the best way to help him learn about ADHD!  They're short and often humorous and he can identify with them rather than me, as a neurotypical, trying to explain my findings to him...

Here we go again.... another weekend where ADD spouse is MIA. He has a new obsession in which he thinks he's going to die....again... so he is lost in anxiety, depression, internal space, and grumpy attitude to family. Now he thinks his heart is going to stop, even though he visited the doctor (an appointment I had to set up because he wouldn't) and they ran tests and everything was fine. In fact, the normal high blood pressure was actually good....but NO this is another sign he is going to die!!!!

My spouse was newly diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago and prescribed adderall. It's been beneficial for them in a lot of aspects of their life (schoolwork, energy levels, help around the house), but they've withdrawn from our relationship 100% and is now contemplating divorce. They claim that they're thriving in all aspects of life except for our marriage and they just don't feel any desire to spend time with me anymore.

I have been struggling in my 10 year marriage with a partner who is likely ADHD [I pretty much "knew' that when we got together from my Special Ed teaching background]

but he does not accept that there may be a need for assessment and strategies.

I've come to the conclusion that the only one I can change is me and my actions/ reactions so today I wrote myself a daily prayer for "Transformation and Self Growth."

Hello. My Husband and I have been married for 24 years. He is ADHD and I am not. I could write a book about all of the challenges that we have faced over the years lol, however I have one specific topic to post today and I am seeking feedback. My husband talks too much. A conversation usually entails me listening 95% of the time and then maybe 5% of the time I have a turn to talk. When I do have a chance to talk within the first sentence he is already interrupting me, interjecting with his train of thought or assumptions and without patience to wait until the end of what I have to say.

Hello, I'm new to this community and I'd like to get some advice on my marriage. I'm a person without ADHD and my wife has ADHD. I recently finished reading "The ADHD effect on marriage" as I was beginning to feel ignored and unloved. I've become bossy and controlling in our relationship and I hate myself. Much of the book talks about empathizing with your partner and appreciating the strengths that come with their ADHD rather than focusing on the negatives.

What do you do when your ADHD husband outright indicates that he doesn’t know if commitment to you and your marriage outweighs his curiosity for being with other women?  I am at a loss.  I don’t even recognize the man I married anymore.  He got a taste of this fix for other women with an affair and immediately regretted it when I stated my boundaries and left him.  I decided to put my heart back on the line again, against my wishes of not wanting to be this shattered ever again, but he outlined with such clarity his regrets saying he would never do anything to hurt me ever again.  He made a

I just replied to someone else's post and thought I should share my story here in the Joy in Marriages ADHD section. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, together for more. Her ADHD and symptoms did not really get heavy until after childbirth around 15 years ago. She was diagnosed around 10 years ago. 

We have 2 girls and both also have been diagnosed with ADHD. Needless to say my life has been impacted by ADHD. So have their lives. It's this simple observation that has been the baseline of our successful relationship.